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Sep 14 2016
Wicked Makeover! Comments (0)

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Wicked has a new look, but why not start with a post showing a dude in tightie whities assuming the position?

Aug 29 2016
Boys Don't Cry: On Gay Blogs Covering Frank Ocean, Other Gay Artists & Hot Straight Guys Comments (0)

Esquire, not exactly known for its stake in LGBT visibility and rights, tweeted this catty jab at gay blogs, piggybacking on the recent criticism that gay blogs had not been covering Frank Ocean enough, even though he is an out artist, and on complaints of “gay-baiting” from stars like the Jonases.

The insult is that gay blogs cover straight artists to the exclusion of gay artists, either out of some sort of lack of consideration for GULP our own kind, or maybe because Frank Ocean is black, which of course picks another fight, a diversity fight.

We don't need a non-LGBTQ website/social media outfit run by a massive corporation that can pick and choose what it wants to cover (and by the way, is not forbidden from covering gay artists themselves) wading into the fray and attempting to needle gay people on a sensitive topic just so they can get some people riled up on Twitter when they couldn't give two f*cks about the issue beyond the depth of those few characters.

1471884724160819_Frank_Ocean_Endless__538x370Frank Ocean in a still from Endless (Video still via Boys Don't Cry)

In my opinion, the argument that Frank Ocean wasn't covered enough is nuts. I saw him mentioned on the biggest (bigger 'n' mine, and I covered him several times) gay blogs. If he wasn't covered more, I would chalk that up to a lot of things other than gay blogs being racist or somehow unsupportive of out gay artists.

First, the blogs at my level and below, we are not making any f*cking money. We are putting stuff up for the sheer pleasure of it, and that means we are not necessarily treating our blogs as being all things to all people. So there are going to be holes. For example, I don't like R&B music. I don't like rap. I don't like tattoo culture. I don't drink, smoke or do drugs—yes, even marijuana. I'm not the most fashionable guy alive. I'm also frickin' old, so that colors my tastes. I'm not sure how many hours I am supposed to spend as a public service, but I spend plenty and am not willing to spend more. So whatever crosses my path and interests me and will get clicks or will please me is what goes up.

Don't like it, look elsewhere or sacrifice your own time and money and do your own damn blog. 

Or go to work for the website and social media of a giant magazine owned by a giant corporation where you can get paid (something) to be a snarky bitch.

Second, Frank Ocean is seen as a great artist. People are dying for his music, and his sales strategy is unique and is newsworthy (which I have posted about). However, a stream of Frank Ocean stories is not possible because he does not put himself out there like many other artists do, so there is less of an interest in his persona. He isn't selling his sexuality (by which I don't mean his sexual orientation; but that, either), so he is not going to be as clickable. Does that mean he shouldn't be covered at all? Hell, no. But he is not going to be as widely covered as artists whose personae are driving popular culture, and it might even mean he will be less covered than some artists who have not much else going for them but their sexiness.

Sexy = clicks, and sexy is not a bad thing. It's the drumbeat beneath a lot of what makes the world go 'round.

Third, Frank Ocean is a huge, f*cking star. He is not—unlike some artists—beholden to gay blogs. He has his choice of media outlets, and he doesn't seem to engage many of them. That works for him. He is hot-hot-hot, and being less available is part of what helped make his new music so anticipated. What is a gay blog supposed to cover about him, other than an album review (I don't do those—I like doing those, but I have no time, and I certainly was never sent his album to listen to and cover) and the news of his success?

Short version: Frank Ocean is awesome, is a force, is a great stride forward for LGBTQ people, and deserves to be noticed. But in a time when non-corporate blogs make so little money and have to wrack their brains (or, in the case of many blogs you may think are run by committee, their brain), it's a little ridiculous to sneer at them/us for not covering any particular topics or artists enough. Call me to complain when I'm turning down requests for coverage by gay artists, because I often post gay artists, including total newcomers, and I have never been pitched Frank Ocean. (I'm not hurt. If I were Frank Ocean, I wouldn't be looking at my marketing plan and bemoaning the lack of a Boy Culture feature pitch.)

On the topic of pitching, I had a frustrating conversation with a millennial recently who kept saying he hates Nick Jonas. Why? Because of that speech at Stonewall, because he's gay-baiting. Gay-baiting, gay-baiting, gay-baiting.

You know what's offensive to me? When an artist does not like or care about LGBTQ people and tries to pander to us. That does not describe Nick or Joe Jonas, as I know from personal experience, and as anyone should know from checking out their history in a very anti-LGBTQ church and then their personal-epiphany paths toward speaking out positively about gay people. To me, when a public figure does that, that is positive, period. When a musician actively includes LGBTQ fans in his or her marketing strategy, that is a sign of respect, not a sign of contempt, and it's embarrassing when gay people repay this with jeers. It is cartoonish hipster to want equal rights but to question the motives of everyone who agrees with you.

The capper? The young guy I was talking to, who had such seething anger regarding LGBTQ issues and how we are being marketed to, sees Hillary and Trump as the same—and isn't registered to vote.

Easier to get mad about a sexy guy telling his young fans it's okay to be gay than to choose between a politician who is demonstrably and vocally pro-LGBTQ and one who is the opposite? And I'm supposed to be offended by the frequency with which cute Nick and cute Joe Jonas show up on gay blogs?

F*ck that.

Jul 19 2016
Happy 20,000th Post To! Comments (0)

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Happy 20,000th post to—he always knows where the (good) bodies are buried!

Apr 29 2016
6-PACK — Happy 12, JMG! + Royal Mic Drop + Kirk Cameron: Sexism Is His Religion + Alec Baldwin Was So Miscast ... How Miscast Was He? + U.S. Reacts To Bangladeshi Terror Murder + Chris Hemsworth's Ultra-Fine Booty! Comments (0)

JMG12blogiversary-660x330(Image via, run by Joe Jervis, celebrates 12 years of keeping LGBT people (the ones with brains) informed & entertained.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef01bb08e9cf88970d-800wiWatch Prince Harry and Queen Elizabeth's hilarious mic-drop video in response to a “threat” from the Obamas.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef01bb08e9cf88970d-800wiKirk Cameron doubles down on how wives should defer to their husbands in all ways.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef01bb08e9cf88970d-800wiThe Match Game will be revived for the summer (yay!), featuring Alec Baldwin as host (boo!). Are you so excited you could blank?

6a00d8341c2ca253ef01bb08e9cf88970d-800wiU.S. State Dept. envoy responds to brutal murders of gay men in Bangladesh at the hands of Islamic State supporters.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef01bb08e9cf88970d-800wiChris Hemsworth goes surfing with his (hot) dad, shows off his (even hotter) butt. He's waving it in our faces!

Feb 18 2016
WIN IT: Audible Audio Book Of My Memoir STARF*CKER! Comments (0)

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As I wrote earlier this month, my book Starf*cker is now available as an audio book.

To enter to win a code to get a free download, just comment this blog post with your favorite thing about my blog, Boy Culture—can be anything!

I'll pick 1 of you a random to win 1 week from today at 5 p.m. ET. Thank you all for participating!

Feb 10 2016
6-PACK — Fan's Faint Praise For Russell Tovey + Gay Stuntman + Sh*t Ben Carson Does + Running Up That Hillary Clinton + Gaga's Reason For Being + Wicked Gay Blog's Return! Comments (0)

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*widget boy cultureRussell Tovey is sorry he's so freakin' hot. (Our meeting, his overpowering hotness.)

*widget boy cultureShawn Balentine: First pro stuntman to come out.

*widget boy cultureHilarious take on Ben Carson's cold feet.

*widget boy cultureHillary still ahead nationally, most Dems think she'll win the nomination.

*widget boy cultureLady Gaga “would never be here” without David Bowie.

*widget boy cultureWicked Gay Blog bought by Online Buddies. Read all the details of its future!

Online Buddies buddies up with Wicked Gay Blog

Feb 09 2016
Little Pricks: Steve Grand Tackles Objectification Issue Comments (0)

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Steve Grand addresses that time last summer when he was a little annoyed with gay blogs using and re-using his old Speedo photos, but makes clear he has NO problem being objectified. He never said don't objectify him. He's still talking about it mainly because people still snarkily bring up that he's the guy who shows skin and complains about showing skin (which he's not).

“I've learned how to take much more than that” would be a good sound byte for a dirty Steve Grand audio file.

Keep reading for his take on the issue of flaunting your body as a gay male artist vs. as a straight female artist ...

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Jan 08 2016
Need To Know: In A Galaxy Far, Far A-Gay + Anal Rape As Hazing + Let's See Your Birth Certificate, Sen. Cruz + Tovey Titties + Pelted With Balls + MORE! Comments (0)

*widget boy cultureOscar Isaac's lip-bite inspires gay Star Wars longing. Images

*widget boy culturePlanned Parenthood's first-ever endorsement: Hillary Clinton.

*widget boy cultureTennessee h.s. basketball players arrested for raping, hazing teammate.

*widget boy cultureIs Canada-born Cruz constitutionally qualified to be prez? Maybe not.

*widget boy cultureBloggers are people, too! (Even vloggers are.)

*widget boy cultureChad Michael Murray's cheeks. (Work Unfriendly)

*widget boy cultureRussell Tovey's psychotic sex appeal.

*widget boy cultureDetails on Mark Salling's life post-arrest.

*widget boy cultureDuggar-endorsed homeschooling guru accused of sexual impropriety.

*widget boy cultureClay Aiken trashes American Idol.

*widget boy cultureSPACEBALLS: Vietnam pelted by extremely low-hangers.

*widget boy cultureDeath of an Imagineer: Frank Armitage dies @ 91. Images

Tumblr_m8nznmHYRA1ruz9j7Armitage worked on Sleeping Beauty (1959), and also contributed to Mary Poppins (1964) and Fantastic Voyage (1966).