162 posts categorized "DON'T ASK, DON'T TELL"

Sep 14 2014
Need To Know: Up In The Hair + GOOPs! She Did It Again + Madame President + Didn't Ask Didn't Tell + MORE! Comments (0)

Mike-StalkerAre you a stalker Stalker?

*widget boy cultureMike Stalker's legs are hairy, chest is smooth...wonder what else is hairless?

*widget boy cultureA courageous young Texan's coming-out story.

*widget boy cultureMartha Stewart says Gwyneth Paltrow “needs to be quiet.”

*widget boy cultureHillary Clinton is running for president, duh.

*widget boy cultureISIL beheads British aid worker David Haines.

*widget boy cultureComing Out Under Fire (1994) makes a comeback.

Coming_out_under_fire-01Military service: What a drag!

*widget boy cultureFashion Week posers skewered by Jimmy Kimmel.

*widget boy cultureTexas teacher dodges sex charges by marrying his 16yo girlfriend.

*widget boy cultureArkansas judiciary stacks the deck against gay marriage.

*widget boy cultureMaher IDs the dude keeping “twentysomethings in their parents' basements.”

*widget boy cultureZimmerman threatens motorist: “Do you know who I am? I'll fucking kill you!”

*widget boy cultureMadonna collaborator Patrick Leonard teaming up with Leonard Cohen.

*widget boy cultureEven Russell Crowe's own kid wants him to get out of his face.

*widget boy cultureGuess whose tits these are:

JACKSON-SPIDELL-BARECHESTEDI love him, a bushel and two pecs!

 
May 20 2014
Lovers & Fighters Comments (0)

Burning-Blue-gay-LGBT-movie

Fresh clip from the gay romantic drama Burning Blue (in select theaters and available on VOD June 6, 2014) after the jump. The film was originally an Off-Broadway play, and is about two Navy fighter pilots' relationship during the DADT era...

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May 09 2014
Coming Out Of Hiding Comments (0)

Dadtsoldier

HuffPo comes up with 9 ways in which life has improved for LGBT people in the nine years since the site has been in existence. In other news, my own blog is only six months younger than HuffPo and I've definitely accomplished just as much and made just as much money as...oh, wait.

Any nine-year period that begins with a Bush and ends with none in sight (forget it, Jeb) is a win for us all.

 
Mar 19 2014
Need To Know: Tong For The Lonely, Wet For Pets, The Billionaire Blues + MORE! Comments (0)

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Boy-CultureMatt Williams by Sonny Tong is a thing of beauty.

Boy-CultureFlight MH370 is very likely at the bottom of the Indian Ocean.

Boy-CultureKenneth Walsh's Wasn't Tomorrow Wonderful? reviewed.

Boy-CultureDiversity-themed float snuck into the Boston St. Patrick's Day parade.

Boy-CultureMeet sexy Rob Smith, author of Combat, Closets & Coming Out.

Rob_smithNow that's an author photo.

Boy-CultureDesigner Vivienne Westwood showers for PETA.

Boy-CultureThe Chris Christie scandal actually could get, and has gotten, worse.

Boy-CultureShould M.I.A. pay $16 million for flipping us off during the Super Bowl?

Boy-CultureSORRY/NOT SORRY: Loaded twat sez being rich = being Jewish in Nazi Germany.

Boy-CultureVintage underwear set is snazzy.

Boy-CultureThis (below) is someone you need to follow:

Andre-Hamann2Do fence me in.

 
Jan 07 2014
It Gets Better…Eventually Comments (0)

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For the full story on the story of a man discharged from the military 58 years ago for being gay, click here. (Spoiler: It has a happy ending.)

 
Dec 02 2013
Boy Culture Turns 8: My 100 Favorite Posts! Comments (0)

BoyCultureBlogYou need a little (Boy) Culture!

StripperIt blows my mind to realize that Boy Culture is now eight years old. I can still remember the joy I felt when I figured out how to post, how to upload an image and how to embed a video. I remember every time a post blew up, bringing in hits and new viewers. I remember the longtime commenters, the trolls, the spam and the never-ending (and validating!) pitches and free tickets and photographers' snaps of half- or all-naked male models. 

RuPaul-Drag-RaceShooting for my blog has never been a drag.

Cone-boyI've used Boy Culture to express myself, to help express others and to connect to people internationally.

I've also used it to show off my humor (both high and low), to flaunt my obsessions, to reality-test my sexual diversions and perversions, to laud the art I love, to lash out against the enemies of gay people and to broadcast my admiration for Madonna.

I want to thank you all for having read this blog over the years. It's a very hard thing to maintain, and it will not be maintained forever. But each time I get some positive (or even just meaningful) feedback, each time my posts are shared on social media, each time something I've written elicits a response, it keeps me going that much longer.

Madonna-stepmother-Joan-MDNAMadonna's stepmother was not impressed.

Thank you. Please enjoy my 100 favorite posts, please let me know if you're reading any old ones for the first time and are liking them and, most of all, please share this entire post far and wide to help get my work out there.

**2008 first one 6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54fdddbfd8833-800wiMy first "Guydar" post from 2008.

As always, you can find me on Facebook (personal and blog), Twitter, Instagram and YouTube (plus, here are my YouTube greatest hits). 

ALL ORANGE TITLES ARE HOTLINKS.

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#100

TOTALLY RANDOM LISTS (2011—2013)

I've gotten way into lists. Way. You'll find more of my lists higher up on, uh, this particular list. But the ones that are just completely random go here because I worked my ass off on them, because I love them and because—judging from Quantcast data—you like 'em, too.

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DuranMy favorite Duran Duran member.

POP QUIZ: VIDEOS THAT KILLED (2011)

Totally awesome '80s! Take this visual quiz to see how many classic music videos you can ID.

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Brando-DeanI wish sex tapes had existed in the '50s.

UNDER THE GAYDAR: 10 PEOPLE YOU MAY OR MAY NOT REALIZE WERE OR ARE QUEER (2012)

I got lots of feedback on this, mainly because nobody realized Nell Carter was with a woman at the time of her death.

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DazzlerI would've chipped in to get this one made.

WOULDA COULDA SHOULDA: 5 INCREDIBLE MOVIES THAT NEVER HAPPENED (2013)

I'm shamless for including Leda & Swan, a movie that was a bomb without ever even being made.

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Lizabeth-ScottGreat Scott!

IN & OUT: 25 STARS' FIRST & LAST PERFORMANCES IN FILM & ON TV (2013)

Being obsessed with nostalgia and with movies, this was fun—but so very taxing—to compile. I loved the randomness of it.

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PSBI hate that music has been sleeveless for 20 years.

20 7" SINGLE SLEEVES FROM THE '80S THAT BELONG IN A GALLERY (2013)

Just 20 from my massive collection of 45s. I got rid of my 12" records, but I've kept these guys because they're just too much a part of my childhood.

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Amanda-BlakeAmanda Blake's marriage was a mystery, with both spouses dying of AIDS.

GAY MARRIAGE: CELEBRITIES WHO MARRIED LGBT SPOUSES (2013)

It might've been more efficient to make a list of famous straight people who managed to marry other full-on heteros.

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Mark-MessierThe infamous Gary Coleman/Mark Messier two-shot seen 'round the world.

ODD COUPLES: 19 UNUSUAL CELEBRITY PAIRS (2013)

This post encapsulates my outlook on pop culture and my desire to twist it and play with it...except in this case, its participants are already doing the dirty work.

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Lake-GenevaHaunted House: The family home that haunted Jane and Bill's final years.

#99

A FIGHT AT THE MUSEUM (2007)

My late mentor's husband struggles to give away his family home.

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#98

POLITICS (2005—2013)

I'm a political person and I blog about it a lot. Some of the entries stand up over time, but many are so of the moment it was hard to pull the ones I like best.

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Kevin-James-Adam-SandlerWhere Kevin James goes, (unintentional!!!) homophobia follows.

TRUNZO IS DUNZO (2007)

Star Magazine implying gay people aren't quite right? Not normal! This took off on several blogs and GLAAD got an apology from Trunzo over it. Some people think it's being "oversensitive," but Jesus...how much clearer is "Man to man" with a huge "NOT" (NORMAL) stamped over it?

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John-McCainIf McCain calls, I'm not here. 

NEW YORK TO McCAIN: DROP DEAD! (2008)

The time I saw John McCain and showed him exactly how I felt. 

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6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54fdcda278833-800wiThe Clintons practice some black magic 

WHITE MISCHIEF (2008)

When Bill and Hillary decided to use race in the race for the White House.

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Jason-WetheringtonCrist for the mill 

FLORIDA'S GOVERNOR ENGAYGED: DOES THIS COUNT AS "GAY MARRIAGE?" (2008)

Charlie Crist is gay. Really, really gay.

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Hillary-Clinton-guysThere's always 2016... 

HOW DO I LOVE THEE? LET ME COUNT THE GAYS... (2008)

The gay affair with Hillary Clinton.

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6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e554e2e7d28834Hail, Mary, full of disgrace

 SARAH PALIN = SPIRO AGNEW + HARRIET MIERS (2008)

Aw, she'll never last...

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Whoopi-Goldberg-Prop-8Whoopi-tee-doo & Kate, too! 

THE MARRYING KIND (2008)

That fabulously spontaneous anti-Prop 8 march in NYC.

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Barack-Obama"Fierce advocate" was once a taunt, and is now just true.

WITH US OR AGAINST US (2009)

A post from when the Obama Administration was considered almost openly hostile toward gay-rights advocates. I believe he's turned that impression around.

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OBAMA-DADTA good sign

IT GOT BETTER (2010)

The one where President Obama happily signed DADT out of existence.

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Sophie-B-HawkinsAs she lays her career down to sleep...

DAMN, I WISH SHE WOULDN'T DO THISI (2011)

Sopie B. Hawkins GOesProud. I wish she'd GOHome.

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Merv-Griffin-Tombstone_6I live for death!

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OBITUARIES (2009—2012)

I tend to write about almost every celebrity death I hear about, specializing in anyone from the Golden Era. These are two that really blew me away. You, too?

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Farrah-FawcettVery hazardous duties

AND JILL CAME TUMBLING AFTER (2009)

The death of Farrah Fawcett, a woman whose nips decorated my walls before I realized I had no use for them.

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Elizabeth-taylor-bathing-suitEnd credits

REFLECTIONS IN A VIOLET EYE: ELIZABETH TAYLOR DIES AT 79 (2011)

The biggest living star fades out. It's still hard to believe she isn't around anymore.

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Donna-SummerShe worked hard for the money.

LAST DANCE: DONNA SUMMER DIES AT 63 (2012)

I'd spent a long time hating Donna over her alleged anti-gay comments, but that rumor isn't the whole story on her life.

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Barbara-KentGood egg

MAKES SAD FACE, MOVES LIPS, TYPE APPEARS ON PANEL: "THE END" (2012)

I was surprised when no major news services noted the death of the last person to have starred in a silent film as an adult, Barbara Kent.

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Sep 02 2013
Need To Know: Assad Situation, What Are The Feds Smoking?, Box Office Blow-Out, Divine Duds + MORE Comments (0)

Victor-GasparWouldn't you love to go spoil this Victor?

*widget boy cultureI <3 Victor Gaspar!

*widget boy cultureRand Paul <3 Assad!

*widget boy cultureSYRIASLY?: Sarah Palin's solution on Syria is, "Let Allah sort it out."

*widget boy cultureDemocrats reigning in Obama on Syria attack resolution.

*widget boy cultureWeed one step closer to being legal.

*widget boy cultureSpanish-language Instructions Not Included slays at box office. Orlando-cruz-announces-hes-gay

*widget boy cultureOut boxer Orlando Cruz goes nude online.

*widget boy cultureDruggy Electric Zoo Festival in canceled after deaths.

*widget boy cultureBig Brother drama as in-denial racist toad is evicted.

*widget boy cultureFuneral services set for DADT activist Darren Manzella.

*widget boy cultureDarling, your sweater is simply Divine.

DivineFashion for the filthiest people alive.

 
Apr 25 2013
Marching On Comments (0)

Conduct
Today is the 20th anniversary of the 1993 March on Washington in D.C. I took the bus down alone, reading an uncorrected galley of the Randy Shilts book Conduct Unbecoming, which I'd gotten from my co-worker Michael Denneny. Denneny is in the news lately for confessing that "Patient Zero" was a made up ploy for publicity for Shilts's And the Band Played On.

Once there, I recall meeting up with friends and being awed by the sheer numbers. I made sure to get a numbered wristband: Mine was #669! I guess I was early.

I remember this image was everywhere:

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I've never felt so blown away by being a part of the gay community, not before, not since. 

QUESTION: Who'da thunk it that just 20 years later, gays in the military would be a moot point and we'd be pushing rapidly toward full marriage equality? ANSWER: We thunk it. We did. That day, everything seemed possible. And you know what? It was.