Chexy chooses Franklin Pangborn as his Friday Face in honor of Veteran's Day—yep, the man who personified the cinematic sissy was a World War I hero. Fabulous! Seriously, fabulous to remember him in this way as a reminder that effeminacy is not a bad thing and is not necessarily a sign of weakness.
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As of midnight last night, it was exactly six years since my first post. It's been a tough thing to keep up with a dayjob and outside activities, and just when I think I might walk away, a valuable connection or interesting opportunity or a kind word comes my way. Thank you all for reading me.
Of whom are you more jealous?
Here are my favorite 100+ posts out of nearly 11,000. Please take some time to read (or re-read!) a couple and tweet or Facebook any you like.
FROM BOY TO MAN: BC B.C. (2007): The entire history of my novell and novel Boy Culture as well as the movie version; might be my ultimate post.
BOY ON FILM (2006): An account of the NYC launch party for Boy Culture as it played the TriBeCa Film Fest.
FRIENDS AND "FAMILY" (2006): The movie version of Boy Culture hits Chicago.
RAPT PUPIL (2006): The final night of Outfest with Boy Culture; I was fat but on the other hand got to meet Bryan Singer.
"Your pictures suck" (2008): An art critic attacks me, but not without sustaining some hits in return.
DRAWN TOGETHER (2008): How my desire to draw related to my secret desire. One of my absolute favorite posts.
LOST ANGELES (2009): My favorite photographic travelogue of L.A.
ART IMITATES LIFE (2006): My 9/11 and my distaste for grief tourism.
BURNING MAN (2007): Tribute to my late high school friend and first romance.
LOST BOY FOUND (2011): There is a book in here somewhere.
CIAO HOUNDS: OUR TRIP TO ITALY (2011): Finally got José to Europe.
ILLINOIS DEATH TRIP (2007): Ruminations on death while revisiting a past home, and the past.
PASSING BY (2008): Mourning the loss of a person I only met once.
Video from their Q&A on October 8, 2011, in Burbank shows Burt Ward and Adam West (aka Batman and Robin) engaging in some sophomoric Don't Ask, Don't Tell banter when West's military service is discussed. Ward has a particularly interesting take on gay insinuations: "He who looks behind the door...has been there before..."
Video after the jump...
All gay people—all people who believe in human rights—have good reason to mourn with the passing of Frank Kameny, who was there at the birth of the LGBT movement and who was there again as President Obama signed the repeal of DADT.
Maryland's Tiffany Alston, who voted against marriage equality after having been a co-sponsor of a bill for it, has been formally charged with embezzling...in order to help fund her own wedding!
I hope she's not married to her freedom, because I think this principled lady might be wedding-marching straight to jail.
At tonight's Republican debate, the crowd BOOED a soldier serving in Iraq. What? Right-wingers booing a soldier? How could that be?
That could be—he's gay. BOOOO!
Disgusting display. If you need proof that President Obama is not the same as a Republican, try comparing how he'd treat this soldier vs. how Rick Santorum and his silent fellow Rs did. And then recall that this crowd, booing a soldier serving during wartime, is made up of people who want "anyone but Obama."
Thanks to Joe: A moving video compilation of gay veterans reacting to the death of Don't Ask, Don't Tell—via President Obama's official YouTube channel...
Wow, I got emotional watching this video of a U.S. soldier calling his dad to tell him he's gay. Poor guy, so nervous and worked up. Glad to hear that his father took it in stride. "Doesn't change our relationship," he replies. It's pretty funny when he says, "Do you wanna tell Mom for me?" and the father says, "I don't believe so."
I hope he asked his dad's permission before posting such an intimate conversation, but the father should be proud of his reaction as well as of his son.
I was invited to a special screening of The Strange History of Don't Ask, Don't Tell, the new documentary by World of Wonder wizzes Randy Barbato and Fenton Bailey that debuts at midnight tonight on HBO—DADT is history as of that time.
Just when I thought I knew everything there was to know, this pop documentary (it's got lots of visual candy to make all the complex policy talk idiot-proof) underscored a few things for me, such as the fact that DADT, considered a "step forward" back in Clinton's 1993, was actually the first time it became illegal to be gay in the military as opposed to being in violation of a policy. It was definitely a case of two steps back to get forward 20 years later.
Also interesting was the history of our country's policies on gays in the military (a quickie look at gays in the armed services over the past few thousand years was a bit cutesy for me)—I'd had no idea that WWII was the first time it became against policy, and loved the film's argument that the very notion of a gay community came from gay soldiers during WWII being discharged and dumped at ports...like Manhattan and San Francisco. Anchors aweigh we go, Mary!
Via Towleroad: DADT R.I.P.
The filmmakers have crafted an almost shockingly apolitical film Yes, John McCain is a delicious villain, but he's not manipulated nor is he a metaphor for all anti-gay people; he was there in '93 and there again in '10 for the birth and death of DADT. The film depicts Bill Clinton as an idealist who grossly underestimated the necessity of getting the military to buy into his plan to open its ranks to gays, and depicts Barack Obama as more of a pragmatist, who wanted the ban lifted and who set about doing it methodically. Neither man comes off poorly, and Republicans are not singled out by party; instead, we are able to see each individual man and woman who testified or worked for or against DADT in his or her own words. It's quite weird to see a film about something that just happened, yet to see so many of the players already relegated to the sidelines—Patrick Murphy in particular.
The film is greatly boosted by interviews with actual servicemen and servicewomen whose lives were heavily impacted by DADT, including the heroic Margarethe Cammermeyer, Victor Fehrenbach, Mike Almy (pictured, right) and Dan Choi. Their testimony about how DADT affected them stands in stark contrast to the sophomoric nonsense about shared showers and "unit cohesion" parroted by the powers-that-were, including Colin Powell.
After, we were able to quiz the filmmakers, Servicemembers Legal Defense Network's Aubrey Sarvis as well as Fehrenbach and Almy, who gave terrific answers:
My question was the one someone asked last, which is: If a Republican wins the presidency and decides to reinstate DADT, would that happen? The answer seems to be it totally could happen, but the military (ironically) would probably protest:
Clearly, more still needs to be done:
Afterward, I had a chance to meet all involved. I missed shaking the hand of Melvin Dwork, the 89-year-old man who just this week had his "undesirable" discharge from 70 years ago converted to an "honorable" discharge. (Now to take care of the 99,000 others!)
Mike Diamond, whose fisting parody of Katy Perry's "E.T." will have you (and your duodenum) in stitches, threw himself at the servicemen so shamelessly I had to borrow some Crisco from him to lube them up and pull him off. But it's okay—gay people have every right to become servicemembers in the military, and those of us not in the military have every right to attempt to service the members of anyone on or off active duty.