159 posts categorized "DON'T ASK, DON'T TELL"

Nov 11 2011
She Was Fierce Comments (1)

Hail the Conquering Hero 4Fittingly, this is from Hail the Conquering Hero (1944)

Chexy chooses Franklin Pangborn as his Friday Face in honor of Veteran's Day—yep, the man who personified the cinematic sissy was a World War I hero. Fabulous! Seriously, fabulous to remember him in this way as a reminder that effeminacy is not a bad thing and is not necessarily a sign of weakness.

 
Nov 06 2011
Boy Culture Turns 6: My Favorite Posts Comments (13)

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As of midnight last night, it was exactly six years since my first post. It's been a tough thing to keep up with a dayjob and outside activities, and just when I think I might walk away, a valuable connection or interesting opportunity or a kind word comes my way. Thank you all for reading me.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef014e89143e3e970d-400wiOf whom are you more jealous?

Here are my favorite 100+ posts out of nearly 11,000. Please take some time to read (or re-read!) a couple and tweet or Facebook any you like.

xoxo Matt

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54ff027a28833-800wiThe pocket pool championships were intense this year


BOY CULTURE


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FROM BOY TO MAN: BC B.C. (2007): The entire history of my novell and novel Boy Culture as well as the movie version; might be my ultimate post.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f5599878833-800wiJonathon Trent & Derek Magyar make an Allan Brocka sandwich

BOY ON FILM (2006): An account of the NYC launch party for Boy Culture as it played the TriBeCa Film Fest.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f7f18238834-800wiI was left "Reeling" by the experience

FRIENDS AND "FAMILY" (2006): The movie version of Boy Culture hits Chicago.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f5ebead8833-800wiNo one would've mistaken me for Taylor Lautner

RAPT PUPIL (2006): The final night of Outfest with Boy Culture; I was fat but on the other hand got to meet Bryan Singer.

 

MY ART

 

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GUYDAR (since at least January 17, 2008) & ENDS OF THE WORLD (since at least January 13, 2008): Attractive men of the world—I got your backs. Your fronts, too.

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6a00d8341c2ca253ef0120a58f680c970bUnaltered iPhone image that still blows me away

"Your pictures suck" (2008): An art critic attacks me, but not without sustaining some hits in return.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e551ff08528834-800wiLet's call it a draw

DRAWN TOGETHER (2008): How my desire to draw related to my secret desire. One of my absolute favorite posts.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef01156faa215c970cThe shirtless one

LOST ANGELES (2009): My favorite photographic travelogue of L.A.

Img_0986_1Even then, New Yorkers feared 9/11 was the beginning of the end

ART IMITATES LIFE (2006): My 9/11 and my distaste for grief tourism.


ME


6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f435c1a8834-800wiDeath of the party—Jeff in high school, already halfway through his life

BURNING MAN (2007): Tribute to my late high school friend and first romance.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef014e862b4a41970d-400wiSigned, sealed (eventually) delivered

LOST BOY FOUND (2011): There is a book in here somewhere.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef01538f1f464a970b-400wiBe Italian

CIAO HOUNDS: OUR TRIP TO ITALY (2011): Finally got José to Europe.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f10b4de8833-800wiDeath becomes here

ILLINOIS DEATH TRIP (2007): Ruminations on death while revisiting a past home, and the past.

Zehnders Life is short...and meaningful

PASSING BY (2008): Mourning the loss of a person I only met once.

Lots more...

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Oct 15 2011
The Unambiguously Straight Duo Comments (0)

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Video from their Q&A on October 8, 2011, in Burbank shows Burt Ward and Adam West (aka Batman and Robin) engaging in some sophomoric Don't Ask, Don't Tell banter when West's military service is discussed. Ward has a particularly interesting take on gay insinuations: "He who looks behind the door...has been there before..."

Video after the jump...

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Oct 13 2011
RIP Frank Kameny Comments (0)

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All gay people—all people who believe in human rights—have good reason to mourn with the passing of Frank Kameny, who was there at the birth of the LGBT movement and who was there again as President Obama signed the repeal of DADT.

 
Sep 25 2011
Priceless! (Actually: Pricy!) Comments (1)

Tiffany_alstonTurns out vows were not all this idiot took!

Maryland's Tiffany Alston, who voted against marriage equality after having been a co-sponsor of a bill for it, has been formally charged with embezzling...in order to help fund her own wedding!

I hope she's not married to her freedom, because I think this principled lady might be wedding-marching straight to jail.

 
Sep 22 2011
Warriors, What Are They Good For? Comments (2)

At tonight's Republican debate, the crowd BOOED a soldier serving in Iraq. What? 6a00d8341c730253ef014e8bc2c261970d-800wi Right-wingers booing a soldier? How could that be?

That could be—he's gay. BOOOO!

Disgusting display. If you need proof that President Obama is not the same as a Republican, try comparing how he'd treat this soldier vs. how Rick Santorum and his silent fellow Rs did. And then recall that this crowd, booing a soldier serving during wartime, is made up of people who want "anyone but Obama."

 
Sep 21 2011
Don't Ask, Don't Tell—But Don't Forget Comments (1)

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Thanks to Joe: A moving video compilation of gay veterans reacting to the death of Don't Ask, Don't Tell—via President Obama's official YouTube channel...

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Sep 20 2011
"I'm Gay" Pride Comments (9)

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Wow, I got emotional watching this video of a U.S. soldier calling his dad to tell him he's gay. Poor guy, so nervous and worked up. Glad to hear that his father took it in stride. "Doesn't change our relationship," he replies. It's pretty funny when he says, "Do you wanna tell Mom for me?" and the father says, "I don't believe so."

I hope he asked his dad's permission before posting such an intimate conversation, but the father should be proud of his reaction as well as of his son.

 
Coming-Out Party Comments (0)

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Gay officer Todd Burton reacts to the fact that Don't Ask, Don't Tell officially ended at 12:01 a.m. today. Great video...

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Sep 19 2011
Do Tell: A Review Of The Strange History Of Don't Ask, Don't Tell Comments (0)

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I was invited to a special screening of The Strange History of Don't Ask, Don't Tell, IMG_1975 the new documentary by World of Wonder wizzes Randy Barbato and Fenton Bailey that debuts at midnight tonight on HBO—DADT is history as of that time.

Just when I thought I knew everything there was to know, this pop documentary (it's got lots of visual candy to make all the complex policy talk idiot-proof) underscored a few things for me, such as the fact that DADT, considered a "step forward" back in Clinton's 1993, was actually the first time it became illegal to be gay in the military as opposed to being in violation of a policy. It was definitely a case of two steps back to get forward 20 years later.

IMG_1973Fenton Bailey, Randy Barbato, Victor Fehrenback, Mike Almy & Aubrey Sarvis

Also interesting was the history of our country's policies on gays in the military (a quickie look at gays in the armed services over the past few thousand years was a bit cutesy for me)—I'd had no idea that WWII was the first time it became against policy, and loved the film's argument that the very notion of a gay community came from gay soldiers during WWII being discharged and dumped at ports...like Manhattan and San Francisco. Anchors aweigh we go, Mary!

SafariScreenSnapz001Via Towleroad: DADT R.I.P.

The filmmakers have crafted an almost shockingly apolitical film Yes, John McCain is a delicious villain, but he's not manipulated nor is he a metaphor for all anti-gay people; he was there in '93 and there again in '10 for the birth and death of DADT. The film depicts Bill Clinton as an idealist who grossly underestimated the necessity of getting the military to buy into his plan to open its ranks to gays, and depicts Barack Obama as more of a pragmatist, who wanted the ban lifted and who set about doing it methodically. Neither man comes off poorly, and Republicans are not singled out by party; instead, we are able to see each individual man and woman who testified or worked for or against DADT in his or her own words. It's quite weird to see a film about something that just happened, yet to see so many of the players already relegated to the sidelines—Patrick Murphy in particular.

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IMovieScreenSnapz002 The film is greatly boosted by interviews with actual servicemen and servicewomen whose lives were heavily impacted by DADT, including the heroic Margarethe Cammermeyer, Victor Fehrenbach, Mike Almy (pictured, right) and Dan Choi. Their testimony about how DADT affected them stands in stark contrast to the sophomoric nonsense about shared showers and "unit cohesion" parroted by the powers-that-were, including Colin Powell.

Noh8VictorFehrenbachNot exactly the best way to change the minds of gay-squeamish troops, but...wow!

IMovieScreenSnapz001 I highly recommend the film. It's therapeutic to watch it and remember, "Whatever happened from Point A to Point Z, we won this sucker."

After, we were able to quiz the filmmakers, Servicemembers Legal Defense Network's Aubrey Sarvis as well as Fehrenbach and Almy, who gave terrific answers:

IMovieScreenSnapz001 My question was the one someone asked last, which is: If a Republican wins the presidency and decides to reinstate DADT, would that happen? The answer seems to be it totally could happen, but the military (ironically) would probably protest:

Clearly, more still needs to be done:

Afterward, I had a chance to meet all involved. I missed shaking the hand of Melvin Dwork, the 89-year-old man who just this week had his "undesirable" discharge from 70 years ago converted to an "honorable" discharge. (Now to take care of the 99,000 others!)

IMG_1963SLDN'S Aubrey Sarvis with the newly desirable Melvin Dwork

Mike Diamond, whose fisting parody of Katy Perry's "E.T." will have you (and your duodenum) in stitches, threw himself at the servicemen so shamelessly I had to borrow some Crisco from him to lube them up and pull him off. But it's okay—gay people have every right to become servicemembers in the military, and those of us not in the military have every right to attempt to service the members of anyone on or off active duty.

IMG_1974Because I, too, am a hussy