A sweet Facebook friend of mine got me boiling mad with a post he made this week. At his recent wedding to the man of his dreams, his sister gave him the above card. He notes:
“Every other card was gender-neutral or mentioned two grooms. What's worse is that it came from a family member. I am insulted.”
He is certain she did not innocently choose the first card she saw. He says the two had not spoken in two years, but he felt pressured to invite her and her adult children (two of which did not even RSVP, let alone attend):
“I was told I had to invite family—all of them—by my parents. This was a complete slap in the face to my husband and me. Even my 18-year-old niece was able to find a gender-neutral card. And yet, my sister asked my mother via text (during the wedding service, I might add) if she had to bring a gift.”
Got that? Texting during the service if a gift was necessary.
What would you do in this case? Would you have invited your disapproving sister in the first place? Once she did this, would you confront her?
I feel for my friend. We don't all deserve the family we get—and they don't always deserve us!