28 posts categorized "JOY BEHAR"

Dec 02 2013
Boy Culture Turns 8: My 100 Favorite Posts! Comments (0)

BoyCultureBlogYou need a little (Boy) Culture!

StripperIt blows my mind to realize that Boy Culture is now eight years old. I can still remember the joy I felt when I figured out how to post, how to upload an image and how to embed a video. I remember every time a post blew up, bringing in hits and new viewers. I remember the longtime commenters, the trolls, the spam and the never-ending (and validating!) pitches and free tickets and photographers' snaps of half- or all-naked male models. 

RuPaul-Drag-RaceShooting for my blog has never been a drag.

Cone-boyI've used Boy Culture to express myself, to help express others and to connect to people internationally.

I've also used it to show off my humor (both high and low), to flaunt my obsessions, to reality-test my sexual diversions and perversions, to laud the art I love, to lash out against the enemies of gay people and to broadcast my admiration for Madonna.

I want to thank you all for having read this blog over the years. It's a very hard thing to maintain, and it will not be maintained forever. But each time I get some positive (or even just meaningful) feedback, each time my posts are shared on social media, each time something I've written elicits a response, it keeps me going that much longer.

Madonna-stepmother-Joan-MDNAMadonna's stepmother was not impressed.

Thank you. Please enjoy my 100 favorite posts, please let me know if you're reading any old ones for the first time and are liking them and, most of all, please share this entire post far and wide to help get my work out there.

**2008 first one 6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54fdddbfd8833-800wiMy first "Guydar" post from 2008.

As always, you can find me on Facebook (personal and blog), Twitter, Instagram and YouTube (plus, here are my YouTube greatest hits). 

ALL ORANGE TITLES ARE HOTLINKS.

********************

#100

TOTALLY RANDOM LISTS (2011—2013)

I've gotten way into lists. Way. You'll find more of my lists higher up on, uh, this particular list. But the ones that are just completely random go here because I worked my ass off on them, because I love them and because—judging from Quantcast data—you like 'em, too.

********************

DuranMy favorite Duran Duran member.

POP QUIZ: VIDEOS THAT KILLED (2011)

Totally awesome '80s! Take this visual quiz to see how many classic music videos you can ID.

********************

Brando-DeanI wish sex tapes had existed in the '50s.

UNDER THE GAYDAR: 10 PEOPLE YOU MAY OR MAY NOT REALIZE WERE OR ARE QUEER (2012)

I got lots of feedback on this, mainly because nobody realized Nell Carter was with a woman at the time of her death.

********************

DazzlerI would've chipped in to get this one made.

WOULDA COULDA SHOULDA: 5 INCREDIBLE MOVIES THAT NEVER HAPPENED (2013)

I'm shamless for including Leda & Swan, a movie that was a bomb without ever even being made.

********************

Lizabeth-ScottGreat Scott!

IN & OUT: 25 STARS' FIRST & LAST PERFORMANCES IN FILM & ON TV (2013)

Being obsessed with nostalgia and with movies, this was fun—but so very taxing—to compile. I loved the randomness of it.

********************

PSBI hate that music has been sleeveless for 20 years.

20 7" SINGLE SLEEVES FROM THE '80S THAT BELONG IN A GALLERY (2013)

Just 20 from my massive collection of 45s. I got rid of my 12" records, but I've kept these guys because they're just too much a part of my childhood.

********************

Amanda-BlakeAmanda Blake's marriage was a mystery, with both spouses dying of AIDS.

GAY MARRIAGE: CELEBRITIES WHO MARRIED LGBT SPOUSES (2013)

It might've been more efficient to make a list of famous straight people who managed to marry other full-on heteros.

********************

Mark-MessierThe infamous Gary Coleman/Mark Messier two-shot seen 'round the world.

ODD COUPLES: 19 UNUSUAL CELEBRITY PAIRS (2013)

This post encapsulates my outlook on pop culture and my desire to twist it and play with it...except in this case, its participants are already doing the dirty work.

********************

Lake-GenevaHaunted House: The family home that haunted Jane and Bill's final years.

#99

A FIGHT AT THE MUSEUM (2007)

My late mentor's husband struggles to give away his family home.

********************

#98

POLITICS (2005—2013)

I'm a political person and I blog about it a lot. Some of the entries stand up over time, but many are so of the moment it was hard to pull the ones I like best.

******************** 

Kevin-James-Adam-SandlerWhere Kevin James goes, (unintentional!!!) homophobia follows.

TRUNZO IS DUNZO (2007)

Star Magazine implying gay people aren't quite right? Not normal! This took off on several blogs and GLAAD got an apology from Trunzo over it. Some people think it's being "oversensitive," but Jesus...how much clearer is "Man to man" with a huge "NOT" (NORMAL) stamped over it?

 ****************

John-McCainIf McCain calls, I'm not here. 

NEW YORK TO McCAIN: DROP DEAD! (2008)

The time I saw John McCain and showed him exactly how I felt. 

**************** 

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54fdcda278833-800wiThe Clintons practice some black magic 

WHITE MISCHIEF (2008)

When Bill and Hillary decided to use race in the race for the White House.

******************** 

Jason-WetheringtonCrist for the mill 

FLORIDA'S GOVERNOR ENGAYGED: DOES THIS COUNT AS "GAY MARRIAGE?" (2008)

Charlie Crist is gay. Really, really gay.

******************** 

Hillary-Clinton-guysThere's always 2016... 

HOW DO I LOVE THEE? LET ME COUNT THE GAYS... (2008)

The gay affair with Hillary Clinton.

******************** 

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e554e2e7d28834Hail, Mary, full of disgrace

 SARAH PALIN = SPIRO AGNEW + HARRIET MIERS (2008)

Aw, she'll never last...

******************** 

Whoopi-Goldberg-Prop-8Whoopi-tee-doo & Kate, too! 

THE MARRYING KIND (2008)

That fabulously spontaneous anti-Prop 8 march in NYC.

******************** 

Barack-Obama"Fierce advocate" was once a taunt, and is now just true.

WITH US OR AGAINST US (2009)

A post from when the Obama Administration was considered almost openly hostile toward gay-rights advocates. I believe he's turned that impression around.

********************

OBAMA-DADTA good sign

IT GOT BETTER (2010)

The one where President Obama happily signed DADT out of existence.

********************

Sophie-B-HawkinsAs she lays her career down to sleep...

DAMN, I WISH SHE WOULDN'T DO THISI (2011)

Sopie B. Hawkins GOesProud. I wish she'd GOHome.

********************

Merv-Griffin-Tombstone_6I live for death!

#97

OBITUARIES (2009—2012)

I tend to write about almost every celebrity death I hear about, specializing in anyone from the Golden Era. These are two that really blew me away. You, too?

********************

Farrah-FawcettVery hazardous duties

AND JILL CAME TUMBLING AFTER (2009)

The death of Farrah Fawcett, a woman whose nips decorated my walls before I realized I had no use for them.

********************

Elizabeth-taylor-bathing-suitEnd credits

REFLECTIONS IN A VIOLET EYE: ELIZABETH TAYLOR DIES AT 79 (2011)

The biggest living star fades out. It's still hard to believe she isn't around anymore.

********************

Donna-SummerShe worked hard for the money.

LAST DANCE: DONNA SUMMER DIES AT 63 (2012)

I'd spent a long time hating Donna over her alleged anti-gay comments, but that rumor isn't the whole story on her life.

********************

Barbara-KentGood egg

MAKES SAD FACE, MOVES LIPS, TYPE APPEARS ON PANEL: "THE END" (2012)

I was surprised when no major news services noted the death of the last person to have starred in a silent film as an adult, Barbara Kent.

 Read More

 
Mar 08 2013
Need To Know: Matt Damon Is The Tops, Joy Behar No Longer Enjoys The View, You'll Be GLAAD You Entered + MORE Comments (2)

The-ViewThe first episode of The View happened before I owned a cellphone

*widget boy cultureJoy Behar quits The View after 16 years.

*widget boy cultureFBI "monitoring" Marco McMillian murder.

*widget boy cultureTen-year-old eco-blogger interviews Amy Ray of The Indigo Girls.

*widget boy cultureTHE DEVIL YOU KNOW:  Justin Bieber: "Only God can judge me."

*widget boy cultureSynergy does not pay the fucking rent.

*widget boy cultureLindsay Lohan saying "no, no, no" to rehab.

*widget boy culture"[Madonna] never had to...tell me that it was OK that I was 'born this way.'"

*widget boy cultureDesperately seeking Denise Van Outen

*widget boy cultureWin a trip to the GLAAD Awards.

*widget boy cultureAnal sex scene in Beyond the Candelabra done in one...take.

1250-ew-COVER"Every Sunday night, this girl wo uld come to my house and I would stand in my garage and I would hike my boxer briefs up into the crack of my ass and she would give me a spray tan."—Matt Damon, on playing Scott Thorson

 
Dec 13 2012
Need To Know Comments (1)

Lancome-hero-OregonPutting his best face forward

Widget boy cultureMeet the most heroic Lancome clerk ever. Gossip-gay-RuPaul-Antonin-Scalia

Widget boy cultureMeet Injustice Scalia's ideological tormentor.

Widget boy cultureSir Ian McKellen does not have prostate cancer.

Widget boy cultureCalifornia Gov. Jerry Brown does have prostate cancer.

Widget boy cultureRob James-Collier not into gay Downton Abbey kisses.

Widget boy cultureSouth Americans losing it over Madonna.

Widget boy cultureVOTE: RuPaul for Best Reality Show Judge/Host.

Widget boy cultureIf "gay" is a birth defect, will righties go pro-choice?

Widget boy culturePlan to castrate and murder Justin Bieber thwarted.

Widget boy cultureBeekmans defend twins against anti-gay rap.

Widget boy cultureThe do-it-yourself...drone???

Widget boy cultureThe boy from Bora Bora.

Widget boy cultureSarah Palin's son, Track, divorcing. Already.

Widget boy culture10 stories that affected HIV/AIDS in black America.

Widget boy cultureAndrew Christian's too-hot Vimeo account deleted.

Widget boy cultureAll of 2012 in one video:

 
Nov 02 2012
Need To Know Comments (1)

Sandy NYCUnbelievable

Widget boy cultureScenes from the ongoing disaster that is Sandy.

Widget boy cultureSandy's tallest hero.

Widget boy cultureBloomberg insists NYC Marathon will come off without a hitch. Benedict Cumberbatch

Widget boy cultureBenedict Cumberbatch goes gay.

Widget boy cultureAstronauts using Madonna's "Vogue" in space!

Widget boy culturePapa Joe Simpson will "never" come out.

Widget boy cultureRape apologist Mourdock's poll numbers crater.

Widget boy cultureFinal pre-election jobs report: Real momentum.

Widget boy cultureWhy 2012 is America's chance at an 1896 do-over. Truck tub

Widget boy cultureNothin' like a buddy-bath in the back of a truck.

Widget boy cultureStomach-turning gay bashing in Jamaica.

Widget boy cultureAd: Maryland vet's parents for equality.

Widget boy cultureJoy Behar doesn't get homocons.

Widget boy cultureGay voters definitely get President Obama.

Widget boy cultureStarbucks gets President Obama, too.

Widget boy cultureMitt Romney: Elect me or the economy gets it.

Widget boy cultureClinton/Booker in 2016! (I'm thinking Clinton/Castro.)

Widget boy cultureRomney/Sandy in 2012!

Widget boy cultureIf Obama calls...I'm here! I'm here!

Barack Obama Hillary ClintonThis begs for a Hillary text in reply

 
Nov 01 2012
Need To Know Comments (0)

Ex-gay-Blake-SmithMen's retreats helped "cure" this lustful cockmonster

Widget boy culture"Every inch of my body craved male sexual contact."—Ex-gay loon

Widget boy cultureJimmy Savile molestation scandal crosses the Atlantic?

Widget boy cultureRomney losing ground as election nears.

Widget boy cultureFive things you don't know about Barack Obama. Jean-Paul-Gaultier-Madonna_1

Widget boy cultureHow to buy Madonna's ugly-coolest outfit EVER.

Widget boy cultureP!nk interprets Madonna.

Widget boy cultureJoy Behar can't say "fuck," can't say, "cocksucker."

Widget boy cultureOcto-Grandpa said, "No, no, no!"

Widget boy cultureCharlie Sheen's crack addiction winning.

Widget boy culturePuppet show: Gaga v. Die Antwoord.

Widget boy cultureLatinos fired up for Obama.

Widget boy cultureLawrence Schiller's Marilyn Monroe images get a gallery show.

Heather James DOT COM Marilyn Monroe Lawrence Schiller artDon't know much about art, but know what I wanna be loved by you...

 
Oct 16 2012
Sexual Personae Non Grata Comments (11)

Camille Paglia"Notice me."

Nineties relic Camille Paglia is still out there blathering away, peddling her narrow point-of-view when it comes to art and pop culture. A mega Madonna fan until after Madonna refused to see or discuss her, Paglia has for the past 15 years or more trashed her former idol's every move.

Now, she tells Joy Behar that Madonna has lost her instinct for performing (!) because she has too many social issues in her show. Even Behar, not much of a Madonna fan or even very informed on Madonna's latest show, scores points on Paglia by shooting down her flawed Dietrich comparison.

P.S. Paglia doesn't think much of Lady Gaga, in case you were wondering.

Full video after the jump...

 Read More

 
May 15 2012
50 Shades Of Gay Rights Comments (1)

In engaging remarks on The View, President Obama talks about his former support of civil unions, his now fully evolved marriage-equality views, his belief that DOMA is not Constitutional and his ignorance of 50 Shades of Grey.

 
Nov 06 2011
Boy Culture Turns 6: My Favorite Posts Comments (13)

IMG_7536Prove it!

As of midnight last night, it was exactly six years since my first post. It's been a tough thing to keep up with a dayjob and outside activities, and just when I think I might walk away, a valuable connection or interesting opportunity or a kind word comes my way. Thank you all for reading me.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef014e89143e3e970d-400wiOf whom are you more jealous?

Here are my favorite 100+ posts out of nearly 11,000. Please take some time to read (or re-read!) a couple and tweet or Facebook any you like.

xoxo Matt

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54ff027a28833-800wiThe pocket pool championships were intense this year


BOY CULTURE


PreviewScreenSnapz001Boy-crazy

FROM BOY TO MAN: BC B.C. (2007): The entire history of my novell and novel Boy Culture as well as the movie version; might be my ultimate post.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f5599878833-800wiJonathon Trent & Derek Magyar make an Allan Brocka sandwich

BOY ON FILM (2006): An account of the NYC launch party for Boy Culture as it played the TriBeCa Film Fest.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f7f18238834-800wiI was left "Reeling" by the experience

FRIENDS AND "FAMILY" (2006): The movie version of Boy Culture hits Chicago.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f5ebead8833-800wiNo one would've mistaken me for Taylor Lautner

RAPT PUPIL (2006): The final night of Outfest with Boy Culture; I was fat but on the other hand got to meet Bryan Singer.

 

MY ART

 

PreviewScreenSnapz001Construction worker (shot this week) vs. James Dean

GUYDAR (since at least January 17, 2008) & ENDS OF THE WORLD (since at least January 13, 2008): Attractive men of the world—I got your backs. Your fronts, too.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef0120a5347f59970c-400wi11i-i-i (phone)


Img_0330Not totally built

6a00d8341c2ca253ef0120a58f680c970bUnaltered iPhone image that still blows me away

"Your pictures suck" (2008): An art critic attacks me, but not without sustaining some hits in return.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e551ff08528834-800wiLet's call it a draw

DRAWN TOGETHER (2008): How my desire to draw related to my secret desire. One of my absolute favorite posts.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef01156faa215c970cThe shirtless one

LOST ANGELES (2009): My favorite photographic travelogue of L.A.

Img_0986_1Even then, New Yorkers feared 9/11 was the beginning of the end

ART IMITATES LIFE (2006): My 9/11 and my distaste for grief tourism.


ME


6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f435c1a8834-800wiDeath of the party—Jeff in high school, already halfway through his life

BURNING MAN (2007): Tribute to my late high school friend and first romance.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef014e862b4a41970d-400wiSigned, sealed (eventually) delivered

LOST BOY FOUND (2011): There is a book in here somewhere.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef01538f1f464a970b-400wiBe Italian

CIAO HOUNDS: OUR TRIP TO ITALY (2011): Finally got José to Europe.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f10b4de8833-800wiDeath becomes here

ILLINOIS DEATH TRIP (2007): Ruminations on death while revisiting a past home, and the past.

Zehnders Life is short...and meaningful

PASSING BY (2008): Mourning the loss of a person I only met once.

Lots more...

 Read More

 
May 17 2011
Lemon Joy, or Born This Black Comments (0)

SafariScreenSnapz001

CNN anchor Don Lemon dazzled in his coming-out interview on Joy Behar's show, mixing seriousness with humor.

On his coming out affecting other anchors coming out:

"Every little bit helps...drip, drip, drip...everything helps. I'm not saying they should. It would be great if they did, quite honestly."

On how other famous people could come out, even without a book:

"Just tweet it...I think it's just important to live your own truth in your own being in your own life and if someone asks you in an interview or in any format, just say, 'Yes, next question.'"

On whether being out betrays a bias:

"I can talk about President Obama and be objective and I'm a black man...I don't think just because I'm gay that it takes my brain away or it makes me not be objective."

On homophobia in the black community:

"In black culture, the worst thing you can be, really, is a gay man, right? A gay black man. That's the worst thing you can be. So you're afraid that black women won't accept you, your family, the church, people you—and then, you know, every other gay person who's not black has to deal with the other things, but you have that, that whole thing and the church especially. You have to deal with that...I'm here to tell you, in the black community it's worse. And hopefully, it's getting better. Hopefully, people like me will make it better. But I think it's sort of the vestiges of, of discrimination and slavery and thinking that if you're gay, that you're effeminate or that you're not a man or that you're weaker...I'm not weak at all. So I just think that's, that's part of it and the black community especially needs to get over that...I was born gay just as I was born black."

More of Dazzling Don on Joy's show here.

 
Nov 05 2010
Boy Culture Turns 5: My Favorite Posts Comments (23)

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f16b6088833-800wi

Img_0736As of midnight tonight, it will be exactly five years since my first post. It's hard to imagine it's been that long, and a lot's changed—the tone and subject matter are different, how often I post, my limits (no nudity in a couple of years due to ad constraints). I've devoted a crazy amount of time and money and energy to this blog for a very small financial return (you couldn't guess low enough), but it's always rewarding to have this forum with which to express myself, keep my writing ability fluid, perhaps influence a couple of people here and there, share obsessions with strangers (in both senses of the word) and learn new things.

6wzn3lxTake That's Howard...can you believe this happened onstage at a pop concert?

Here are some of the posts that were most important to Boy Culture's history. For the uninitiated, some of the oldest ones refer to Boy Culture, the movie made of my novel; I started the blog at the time Boy Culture was being filmed as a way to keep people informed of the progress...and it all snowballed from there.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e55368bad38834-800wiSubtle

Some of these posts are milestones when it comes to the hits they provided but most are filled with original writing and/or photography and video and are just the posts of which I'm proudest. I hope you'll take some time to click on them and send their links around to others—and some time is what you'll need...


MY ART


6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f0e820e8833-800wiBoy-crazy

FROM BOY TO MAN: BC B.C. (2007): The entire history of my novella, novel and movie Boy Culture; might be my ultimate post.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54fbf2d3e8834-800wiFrom '07, one of my faves. Old iPhones were better because they were worse.

"Your pictures suck" (2008): An art critic attacks me, but not without sustaining some hits in return.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef0133f34798d1970b-400wi
GUYDAR (since at least January 17, 2008) & ENDS OF THE WORLD (since at least January 13, 2008): Attractive men of the world—I got your backs. Your fronts, too.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54fdddbfd8833-800wi 6a00d8341c2ca253ef01347fed0117970c-400wii-i-i (phone)

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f699b958834-800wiTriBeCa is for Boy lovers...

BOY ON FILM (2006): An account of the NYC launch party for Boy Culture as it played the TriBeCa Film Fest.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f7f10b58834-800wiI was left "Reeling" by the experience

FRIENDS AND "FAMILY" (2006): The movie version of Boy Culture hits Chicago.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f72bcd78834-800wi
RAPT PUPIL (2006): The final night of Outfest with Boy Culture; I was fat but on the other hand got to meet Bryan Singer.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e551e92d338833-800wiLet's call it a draw

DRAWN TOGETHER (2008): How my desire to draw related to my secret desire. One of my absolute favorite posts.


ME


6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f2f319b8833-800wiDeath of the party—Jeff in high school, already halfway through his life

BURNING MAN (2007): Tribute to my late high school friend and first romance.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef010536a813e5970bI had the Fever for Jon-Erik Hexum

AN OBSESSION IS BORN (2009): One of my best posts about my obsession with...obsession.

2Death becomes here

ILLINOIS DEATH TRIP (2007): Ruminations on death while revisiting a past home, and the past.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef010535d3a723970c-250wi Life is short and meaningful

PASSING BY (2008): Mourning the loss of a person I only met once.

SafariScreenSnapz001I was given the red-carpet treatment

HAVEN'T WE MET? (2010): Celebrating my time with someone I've only met once—Madonna.

 Read More