44 posts categorized "MILK"

Dec 02 2013
Boy Culture Turns 8: My 100 Favorite Posts! Comments (0)

BoyCultureBlogYou need a little (Boy) Culture!

StripperIt blows my mind to realize that Boy Culture is now eight years old. I can still remember the joy I felt when I figured out how to post, how to upload an image and how to embed a video. I remember every time a post blew up, bringing in hits and new viewers. I remember the longtime commenters, the trolls, the spam and the never-ending (and validating!) pitches and free tickets and photographers' snaps of half- or all-naked male models. 

RuPaul-Drag-RaceShooting for my blog has never been a drag.

Cone-boyI've used Boy Culture to express myself, to help express others and to connect to people internationally.

I've also used it to show off my humor (both high and low), to flaunt my obsessions, to reality-test my sexual diversions and perversions, to laud the art I love, to lash out against the enemies of gay people and to broadcast my admiration for Madonna.

I want to thank you all for having read this blog over the years. It's a very hard thing to maintain, and it will not be maintained forever. But each time I get some positive (or even just meaningful) feedback, each time my posts are shared on social media, each time something I've written elicits a response, it keeps me going that much longer.

Madonna-stepmother-Joan-MDNAMadonna's stepmother was not impressed.

Thank you. Please enjoy my 100 favorite posts, please let me know if you're reading any old ones for the first time and are liking them and, most of all, please share this entire post far and wide to help get my work out there.

**2008 first one 6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54fdddbfd8833-800wiMy first "Guydar" post from 2008.

As always, you can find me on Facebook (personal and blog), Twitter, Instagram and YouTube (plus, here are my YouTube greatest hits). 

ALL ORANGE TITLES ARE HOTLINKS.

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TOTALLY RANDOM LISTS (2011—2013)

I've gotten way into lists. Way. You'll find more of my lists higher up on, uh, this particular list. But the ones that are just completely random go here because I worked my ass off on them, because I love them and because—judging from Quantcast data—you like 'em, too.

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DuranMy favorite Duran Duran member.

POP QUIZ: VIDEOS THAT KILLED (2011)

Totally awesome '80s! Take this visual quiz to see how many classic music videos you can ID.

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Brando-DeanI wish sex tapes had existed in the '50s.

UNDER THE GAYDAR: 10 PEOPLE YOU MAY OR MAY NOT REALIZE WERE OR ARE QUEER (2012)

I got lots of feedback on this, mainly because nobody realized Nell Carter was with a woman at the time of her death.

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DazzlerI would've chipped in to get this one made.

WOULDA COULDA SHOULDA: 5 INCREDIBLE MOVIES THAT NEVER HAPPENED (2013)

I'm shamless for including Leda & Swan, a movie that was a bomb without ever even being made.

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Lizabeth-ScottGreat Scott!

IN & OUT: 25 STARS' FIRST & LAST PERFORMANCES IN FILM & ON TV (2013)

Being obsessed with nostalgia and with movies, this was fun—but so very taxing—to compile. I loved the randomness of it.

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PSBI hate that music has been sleeveless for 20 years.

20 7" SINGLE SLEEVES FROM THE '80S THAT BELONG IN A GALLERY (2013)

Just 20 from my massive collection of 45s. I got rid of my 12" records, but I've kept these guys because they're just too much a part of my childhood.

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Amanda-BlakeAmanda Blake's marriage was a mystery, with both spouses dying of AIDS.

GAY MARRIAGE: CELEBRITIES WHO MARRIED LGBT SPOUSES (2013)

It might've been more efficient to make a list of famous straight people who managed to marry other full-on heteros.

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Mark-MessierThe infamous Gary Coleman/Mark Messier two-shot seen 'round the world.

ODD COUPLES: 19 UNUSUAL CELEBRITY PAIRS (2013)

This post encapsulates my outlook on pop culture and my desire to twist it and play with it...except in this case, its participants are already doing the dirty work.

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Lake-GenevaHaunted House: The family home that haunted Jane and Bill's final years.

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A FIGHT AT THE MUSEUM (2007)

My late mentor's husband struggles to give away his family home.

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POLITICS (2005—2013)

I'm a political person and I blog about it a lot. Some of the entries stand up over time, but many are so of the moment it was hard to pull the ones I like best.

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Kevin-James-Adam-SandlerWhere Kevin James goes, (unintentional!!!) homophobia follows.

TRUNZO IS DUNZO (2007)

Star Magazine implying gay people aren't quite right? Not normal! This took off on several blogs and GLAAD got an apology from Trunzo over it. Some people think it's being "oversensitive," but Jesus...how much clearer is "Man to man" with a huge "NOT" (NORMAL) stamped over it?

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John-McCainIf McCain calls, I'm not here. 

NEW YORK TO McCAIN: DROP DEAD! (2008)

The time I saw John McCain and showed him exactly how I felt. 

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6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54fdcda278833-800wiThe Clintons practice some black magic 

WHITE MISCHIEF (2008)

When Bill and Hillary decided to use race in the race for the White House.

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Jason-WetheringtonCrist for the mill 

FLORIDA'S GOVERNOR ENGAYGED: DOES THIS COUNT AS "GAY MARRIAGE?" (2008)

Charlie Crist is gay. Really, really gay.

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Hillary-Clinton-guysThere's always 2016... 

HOW DO I LOVE THEE? LET ME COUNT THE GAYS... (2008)

The gay affair with Hillary Clinton.

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 SARAH PALIN = SPIRO AGNEW + HARRIET MIERS (2008)

Aw, she'll never last...

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Whoopi-Goldberg-Prop-8Whoopi-tee-doo & Kate, too! 

THE MARRYING KIND (2008)

That fabulously spontaneous anti-Prop 8 march in NYC.

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Barack-Obama"Fierce advocate" was once a taunt, and is now just true.

WITH US OR AGAINST US (2009)

A post from when the Obama Administration was considered almost openly hostile toward gay-rights advocates. I believe he's turned that impression around.

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IT GOT BETTER (2010)

The one where President Obama happily signed DADT out of existence.

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Sophie-B-HawkinsAs she lays her career down to sleep...

DAMN, I WISH SHE WOULDN'T DO THISI (2011)

Sopie B. Hawkins GOesProud. I wish she'd GOHome.

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Merv-Griffin-Tombstone_6I live for death!

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OBITUARIES (2009—2012)

I tend to write about almost every celebrity death I hear about, specializing in anyone from the Golden Era. These are two that really blew me away. You, too?

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Farrah-FawcettVery hazardous duties

AND JILL CAME TUMBLING AFTER (2009)

The death of Farrah Fawcett, a woman whose nips decorated my walls before I realized I had no use for them.

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Elizabeth-taylor-bathing-suitEnd credits

REFLECTIONS IN A VIOLET EYE: ELIZABETH TAYLOR DIES AT 79 (2011)

The biggest living star fades out. It's still hard to believe she isn't around anymore.

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Donna-SummerShe worked hard for the money.

LAST DANCE: DONNA SUMMER DIES AT 63 (2012)

I'd spent a long time hating Donna over her alleged anti-gay comments, but that rumor isn't the whole story on her life.

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Barbara-KentGood egg

MAKES SAD FACE, MOVES LIPS, TYPE APPEARS ON PANEL: "THE END" (2012)

I was surprised when no major news services noted the death of the last person to have starred in a silent film as an adult, Barbara Kent.

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Nov 26 2013
Need To Know: A Fine Line Between Love And Haiti, AMAs Were The Cat's Meow, LOOKING Good + MORE! Comments (0)

Madonna-Sean-PennMadonna heads to Haiti with her ex.

*widget boy cultureMadonna and Sean Penn reunite in Haiti. In other news, hell freezes over.

*widget boy cultureHORRORS!: They wrote the book on gay panic.

*widget boy cultureThings learned from watching the AMAs this year.

*widget boy cultureBlack & Van Sant will attend Milk screening in Russia amid bomb threats.

*widget boy cultureMaltese Falcon sells for $4M+.

*widget boy cultureYour chance to help make The Gender Book a reality.

*widget boy cultureUNCUT: HBO's new cinéma véri-gay series is Looking good.

*widget boy cultureAlan Ritchson shows off his big jock.

*widget boy cultureSix decades of the most popular names for girls.

*widget boy cultureSee Jamie Dornan naked before 50 Shades of Grey.

*widget boy cultureBroadway star Natalie Toro releases new CD, has release party @ Birdland Dec. 8.

 
Sep 16 2013
Need To Know: Rape As A Gay Cure, Bloody Nonsense, Nonagenarian Nuptials, Let Freedom AIDS Ring + MORE Comments (0)

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*widget boy cultureKim Freire by Eber Figuiera is the attractive version of Harry Styles.

*widget boy cultureAbuses of gay men in Russia continue unabated. Add rape to the list.

*widget boy cultureYou still can't give blood if you're a man who has sex with men. Taejahn

*widget boy cultureHe's more shredded than Fawn Hall's workload.

*widget boy cultureMale WWII & Vietnam vets marry at veterans' home.

*widget boy cultureSICKENING: Cops shoot bystanders during stand-off with disturbed man. (I walked past this last night!)

*widget boy culturePat Robertson's "AIDS ring" video lives on.

*widget boy cultureChildren suspended from school until they prove to be HIV-negative. But do they wear AIDS rings?

*widget boy cultureWill Gay Games 2014 in Cleveland be safe?

*widget boy cultureMartha Coakley to run for governor in Massachusetts.

*widget boy cultureWhat it means to be a gay icon today, and does Katy Perry count?

*widget boy cultureMilk producer doing transgender TV series.

*widget boy cultureJake Gyllenhaal "hugely complimented" by gay rumors, but loves "tits and ass."

 
Nov 06 2011
Boy Culture Turns 6: My Favorite Posts Comments (13)

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As of midnight last night, it was exactly six years since my first post. It's been a tough thing to keep up with a dayjob and outside activities, and just when I think I might walk away, a valuable connection or interesting opportunity or a kind word comes my way. Thank you all for reading me.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef014e89143e3e970d-400wiOf whom are you more jealous?

Here are my favorite 100+ posts out of nearly 11,000. Please take some time to read (or re-read!) a couple and tweet or Facebook any you like.

xoxo Matt

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54ff027a28833-800wiThe pocket pool championships were intense this year


BOY CULTURE


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FROM BOY TO MAN: BC B.C. (2007): The entire history of my novell and novel Boy Culture as well as the movie version; might be my ultimate post.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f5599878833-800wiJonathon Trent & Derek Magyar make an Allan Brocka sandwich

BOY ON FILM (2006): An account of the NYC launch party for Boy Culture as it played the TriBeCa Film Fest.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f7f18238834-800wiI was left "Reeling" by the experience

FRIENDS AND "FAMILY" (2006): The movie version of Boy Culture hits Chicago.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f5ebead8833-800wiNo one would've mistaken me for Taylor Lautner

RAPT PUPIL (2006): The final night of Outfest with Boy Culture; I was fat but on the other hand got to meet Bryan Singer.

 

MY ART

 

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GUYDAR (since at least January 17, 2008) & ENDS OF THE WORLD (since at least January 13, 2008): Attractive men of the world—I got your backs. Your fronts, too.

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6a00d8341c2ca253ef0120a58f680c970bUnaltered iPhone image that still blows me away

"Your pictures suck" (2008): An art critic attacks me, but not without sustaining some hits in return.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e551ff08528834-800wiLet's call it a draw

DRAWN TOGETHER (2008): How my desire to draw related to my secret desire. One of my absolute favorite posts.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef01156faa215c970cThe shirtless one

LOST ANGELES (2009): My favorite photographic travelogue of L.A.

Img_0986_1Even then, New Yorkers feared 9/11 was the beginning of the end

ART IMITATES LIFE (2006): My 9/11 and my distaste for grief tourism.


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6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f435c1a8834-800wiDeath of the party—Jeff in high school, already halfway through his life

BURNING MAN (2007): Tribute to my late high school friend and first romance.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef014e862b4a41970d-400wiSigned, sealed (eventually) delivered

LOST BOY FOUND (2011): There is a book in here somewhere.

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CIAO HOUNDS: OUR TRIP TO ITALY (2011): Finally got José to Europe.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f10b4de8833-800wiDeath becomes here

ILLINOIS DEATH TRIP (2007): Ruminations on death while revisiting a past home, and the past.

Zehnders Life is short...and meaningful

PASSING BY (2008): Mourning the loss of a person I only met once.

Lots more...

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May 03 2010
But What I Really Want To Do Is Direct Your Attention To Something That Needs Directing To Comments (36)

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Reminds me of her 1994 Wayne Maser Esquire shoot

Van91g So Madonna looks flawless (in the good way) on and in Interview (May 2010) thanks to inspired shots by Mert & Marcus that in turn seem inspired by Gary Heery's fantastic first-album cover shoot and Steven Meisel's 1991 Vanity Fair shoot (inset) and perhaps accidentally similar to Tom Munro's recent work with her. But despite parallels, the shots are not knock-offs, and a couple of them threaten to become instant classics. 

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SafariScreenSnapz004How much do we love that she wore jewelry so reminiscent of her early '80s accessories? In fact, some of them actually are her early '80s accessories, I bet, since they're credited as the artist's own.

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The interview, a long chat with Gus Van Sant, shows off Madonna's excellent taste in movies and seems to be a sort of reminder of who Madonna was and who she still is—if she weren't talking about the movie she's co-written and plans to direct (W.E., which she clarifies is not all about Wallis Simpson), it's the kind of interview she could have given 20 years ago.

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Of particular interest to gay fans:

Madonna-interview-magazine-crucifix "But you know, what [Milk] triggered for me was all my early days in New York and the scene that I came up in-you know, with Andy Warhol and Keith Haring and Jean-Michel Basquiat and Kenny Scharf. It was just so alive with art and politics and this wonderful spirit. So many of those people are dead now. I think that's one of the reasons I cried. In fact, the character that Richard E. Grant plays in the film I directed, Filth and Wisdom [2008], is this blind professor who was based on my ballet teacher, Christopher Flynn. Growing up in Michigan, I didn't really know what a gay man was. He was the first man-the first human being-who made me feel good about myself and special. He was the first person who told me that I was beautiful or that I had something to offer the world, and he encouraged me to believe in my dreams, to go to New York. He was such an important person in my life. He died of AIDS, but he went blind toward the end of his life. He was such a lover of art, classical music, literature, opera. You know, I grew up in the Midwest, and it was really because of him that I was exposed to so many of those things. He brought me to my first gay club-it was this club in Detroit. I always felt like I was a freak when I was growing up and that there was something wrong with me because I couldn't fit in anywhere. But when he took me to that club, he brought me to a place where I finally felt at home. So that character in Filth and Wisdom was dedicated to him and inspired by him. I don't know why I'm bringing all this up, but I guess it's just coming from that world in Michigan and the trajectory of my life: after going to New York and being a dancer when the whole AIDS epidemic started and nobody knew what it was. And then suddenly, all these beautiful men around me, people who I loved so dearly, were dying-just one after the next. It was just such a crazy time. And watching the world freak out-the gay community was so ostracized. But it was also when I was beginning my career. . . . I don't know. Your movie really struck a chord for me and made me remember all that. It's a time I don't think many people have captured on film. It's a time that people don't talk about much. And even though there was so much death, for me, New York was so alive."

Seeing a thriving, last-century gay culture depicted on film seems to have jogged her memories of the period directly following.

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This is the umpteenth time Madonna has spoken of the impact gay men have had on her life, but I feel like no matter how many times she says it, there are always those who think she's using gays for money. (Which she is, but she's using everyone for money so she's a capitalartist, not a gay-casher.)

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Major missed opportunity—Van Sant speaks with her about Malawi, but doesn't bring up the persecuted couple so in danger there as we speak.

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Mosaic via Zack 

An "Erotica"-style video of the shoot by Fabien Baron ("why was he chosen?") is here. More images after the jump...

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Mar 14 2010
Orange You GLAAD You Came? Comments (7)
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SafariScreenSnapz001 GLAAD's Rich Ferraro has consistently invited me to his organization's events and I've consistently declined; I officially cover so many events for my dayjob and unofficially cover so many events on my blog for fun that my thought has been I don't really need to hyperextend myself by marrying the two and officially covering an event for my blog.

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Gays & thespians: Honoree Nixon with Prayers for Bobby's Weaver

But The 21st Annual GLAAD Media Awards were honoring Cynthia Nixon and Joy Behar (two of my favorite redheads—the red carpet was truly red/orange...it was a Night of 1,000 Gingers) so I made it my first red carpet, quickly discovering that doing an event with no boss to please and nothing to lose and yet having orchestrated access to the main attractions can wind up being the best of both worlds—officially fun.

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From where I stood 

IMG_5406 I arrived around 3PM for press check-in. There was a crush of people and the nice lady at the desk wasn't; I asked where to go and she said up the escalator, which isn't really that descriptive considering I was in the Marriott Marquis in Times Square (a place I was at on 9/10/01, and where I discussed going to the World Trade Center the following day to get TKTS tickets for a show...something that never panned out, obviously). I went up, as commanded, but couldn't figure out where to go next. I was pointed in many directions, finally landing on the third floor. (You'll see from the photos that I was much even more disheveled and droopy than usual.)

All my B-roll footage:

Here, I found my spot on the line—right toward the end. Red carpets are like the social caste system made manifest, or like a literal food chain. On the latter, I would be the seeds the birds poop out to keep the plants growing. To make it less metaphorical, I was two slots behind something called Autostraddle.com, which I refuse to look up because it sounds like one of those mechanical dildo sites. (I broke down and looked it up—it's a kinda great lesbian site with lots of traffic.)

6a0115715184aa970b0120a6a04830970b-500wi But it turns out my spot wasn't so bad (considering I'm just some guy with a blog) because most of the stars were rather available and those who weren't were stopping to my left to do stuff with GLAAD. At first, I was right next to Ben Harvey and Dave Rubin of Ben & Dave's Six Pack (pictured, image from Metrosource). They were also covering for Queerty, though I wondered if they might not get less frozen reactions if they left the Queerty part out (I still link to Queerty, but I think it's fair to describe it as somewhat caustic). They were cute and as nice as can be; I point this out because the act of having a six-pack makes people gushingly nice, but the act of having six-pack abs usually does the opposite. They were professional and hot, the types of guys you wouldn't hate being stuck on a crowded elevator with, so I hoped they'd help attract stars, Suddenly Last Summer-style.

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Samara puts the Reichen Lehmkuhls on the spot 

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Jun 13 2009
Black-Listed Over Bare-Blacking Comments (27)

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Dustin Lance Black—nothing's changed.


Dustin Lance Black has reacted to the publication of private sexual images showing him and a former boyfriend having (bareback) sex:

"It is unfortunate that individuals and other outside parties are trying to profit from material which is clearly private. I have had the privilege to speak to people across the country, both gay and straight, on a number of critical issues including safe sex. More important than the embarrassment of this incident is the misleading message these images send. I apologize and cannot emphasize enough the importance of responsible sexual practices," he said in a statement to E! Online (not the Advocate, Out or Instinct).

Even before this statement, many in the gay blogosphere had already reacted—and not to reprimand Black, but to attack Perez Hilton for posting the uncensored shots.

Perez-hilton To be honest, I'm somewhat torn on this.

I get the argument that Black is an important figure on gay issues (and is thought of as a great guy and role model), so if he is on our team, why should a gay blogger go out of his way to post something that would be embarrassing? I initially posted a link to Perez and still have one non-nude image up; I've since removed the link, which is admittedly not that meaningful since everyone knows where to go.

This same thing happened years ago with Thomas Thomas-roberts-manhunt Roberts, whose nude pictures were leaked. In that case, I really had no angst over people posting his images—if you are going to take naked pictures of yourself and post them on a public site (even if it's a site that requires membership) and/or send them out to people as an enticement to come have sex with you, how can you be truly worried that they might find a wider audience? If you are a well-known person and/or a person with a job that carries prestige, the chances that the images will surface are exponentially greater.

In Black's case, I don't believe he put his image on the 'Net to begin with, nor do I think he is Pam Andersoning anyone—he obviously is not orchestrating their release to sex up his image. I don't believe he ever made them public on the Internet. Instead, it would seem a partner is selling him out. The villain is the person who leaked them, and presumably if the images were only known to him and to Black, Black could and should sue.

JUN09_main But in reading a well-intentioned and obviously passionate editorial like the one over at Instinct, I take issue with the arguments.

Editor Mike Wood states "please please please don't go look" and, "We must be very, very careful about applauding a person in our community because he takes on a beauty queen when that same person—Hilton—is just as willing to post compromising and damaging pictures of one of the gay community's actual up-and-coming leaders...if we didn't have those who are in our community looking out for us—and trying to boost us up while everyone else kicks us down—what do we have?"

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Jun 12 2009
Milk, Milk, Lemonade—Around The Corner Fudge Is Made Comments (11)
Now that Dustin Lance Black's private sex photos (and potentially a video) have been sold to an agency (presumably by the sexy guy who fucked him back in 2006, when they were made), it'll be interesting to see if he is embarrassed or cares at all. He's got to be angry that someone would leak them, let alone sell them; I mean on the broader level of how he reacts to their being out there.

One issue to at least address is that they're bareback. Easily enough, this could be a long-term partner with whom he felt safe, but I guess if I were him, a bona fide gay icon, I would probably speak to that one way or another. Perhaps he'll say, "It's nobody's business." Which is fair enough since it's not like he's deliberately releasing these.

Aside from the condom question mark, he really has nothing much to be embarrassed about. The other guy, or whoever is selling them, does.
 
May 07 2009
I Like Lance A Lot, Sir Comments (0)

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"You know what, I think Proposition 8 was kind of great in that it brought the struggle back to the forefront. We've been losing propositions in the States for almost the last eight, nine years; it's just Proposition 8 just kind of got press attention. There have been rallies, but maybe not as big, and the movement is catching steam and gay people are finally fed up. And not just with the voters: gay people are also fed up with the gay and lesbian leadership in the United Stated, which is very closeted. It's almost like we've regressed."—Gay activist and Milk scribe Dustin Lance Black, in a swipe at Human Rights Campaign in Attitude

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Black is also the coverboy on the new Advocate. He's the lead pick for the magazine's "40 Under 40" feature. Believe it or not, I was chosen, just over 10 years ago, as one of The Advocate's "30 Under 30." I'm glad I turned 40 before this came out so I have an excuse—had I been 39 and failed to make the list, I'd have had proof that I've degenerated in importance and promise over the decade!

 
Mar 23 2009
The Life Of Emile Comments (1)

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Emile Hirsch is shot by Francesco Carrozzini for L'Uomo Vogue (March 2009), looking every inch a Hollywood leading man—definitely a less "quirky" shoot for him this time:

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