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Mar 26 2017
You May Kiss, Brides: ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK Couple Weds Comments (0)

Samira-wiley-instagramWiley & Morelli (Image via Instagram @whododatlikedat)

Samira Wiley and Lauren Morelli got married in Palm Springs, ExtraTV reports.

Wiley, who plays Poussey Washington on Orange Is the New Black, and Morelli, who is one of the Netflix show's writers, met on set... when Morelli thought she was straight, and was definitely married to a man.

In an Identities.Mic essay, Morelli wrote of her discovery that she is a lesbian:

... while it certainly would have been disorienting to begin to question my sexuality after three decades of knowing myself, it was particularly blinding because I'd gotten married only a few months before. It was the sort of wedding that makes you believe in absolute partnership and the strength that can come from facing obstacles, like the life-threatening illness that my new husband had battled for the majority of our relationship. But he was healthy again, so we danced under strings of Christmas lights and drank fancy cocktails that were served in mason jars, all while being surrounded by the friends and family who had held us up over the previous six years.

Which is why it's now a punch in the gut every time I have to say, “I'm getting divorced because I'm gay.” It's a sentence I've said approximately 5,223 times in the last six months. For those of you keeping track, I'm definitely not exaggerating and I'm not prone to hyperbole, ever.

Often, after I make the declaration in as casual a voice as I can manage, the next question is, “Did you know?” It's a question that I dread because I always hear the implied “How could you not know?”

 
Dec 29 2016
OUT Explores The Nuances Of Love With High-Profile Couples Comments (0)

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Out really delivers with its pair of Love Story-themed covers, one of which features actor/Internet personality Matthew Wilkas and his boyfriend Gus Kenworthy, the Olympic athlete, the other of which showcases once-you've-gone-Orange Is the New Black-you'll-never-go-back girlfriends Samira Wiley and Lauren Morelli — just beautiful.

I was particularly interested in the very real approach the guys are taking in their relationship, with Wilkas saying:

For me, being apart a lot of the time is a good thing, but I don’t think Gus feels that way. He doesn’t really want a long-distance relationship. I don’t either but think time apart is valuable and can work.

Kenworthy says:

All relationships take work, and we’ve definitely begun to realize that…I was in a relationship from 18-23, and I still haven’t really experienced that much sexually. I wouldn’t want to ever sacrifice my relationship with Matt just to go out and get that out of my system, but we’ve also talked about that and he doesn’t want to deprive me of experiencing anything while I’m still young. I don’t necessarily know what that means. But we’re not in an open relationship and we’re not breaking up. But we’re also not getting married.

Check out the cover stories here.

 
Jun 28 2016
Finger On Pulse: NYC Pride March 2016 — With 100s Of Pictures! Comments (0)

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IMG_7509*All of the above! (All images in this post by Matthew Rettenmund, unless noted)

My day at the NYC Pride March was a beautiful reminder of my experience in life and of the fact that I'm always having new experiences in life ... and proof that my little body's slowing breaking down. Oh, my aching gay back!

READ: 100+ Sizzling Pics from the Adonis Lounge Go-Go Boy Float!

I was tapped to follow the stripper-drenched Adonis Lounge float, photographing the guys and the gays' reactions to them as we tooled through Manhattan, Screen Shot 2016-06-27 at 11.43.40 PMbut was told the night before—at a nude party, which are great fun when only the strippers and not the patrons provide the nudity—that I wouldn't be meeting then until 3 p.m. That blew my mind, as anyone marching in the parade usually meets up in the morning. This year, organizers seemed to get more realistic about when groups should assemble on the side streets in the 30s and 40s along Fifth Avenue to cut down on congestion and fatigue, but there was no way I wanted to miss the parade itself just because I was going to be in it, toward the end. [Pictured: Me with Angel (Image by Angel Jimez), me with Edward (Image courtesy of Edward Thomas)]

So, I woke up early, fed myself, pulled on my beloved Mildred Fierce T-shirt and hauled camera over to W. 41st St., which I picked IMG_7475*
because I read that was where a group featuring teen trans star Jazz Jennings would be meeting up and thought she'd be fun to shoot again. I never found her, but did find my pal Edward Thomas and his sister.

It was a great block on which to hang out, filled with plenty of beauties, interesting faces and spirited coppers—I was mixing it up with the Gay Officers Action League, where I met a lesbian couple in love with Varla Jean Merman (my shirt provided the conversation-starter), was handed my first NO when asking to take someone's picture (an all-but-naked man in a leather jockstrap, who apparently wasn't seeking attention) and fell in love several times.

IMG_7495*Copping out!

I don't have official press I.D., which isn't technically needed to cover a public event, but I'm always worried I'll be stopped when walking from float to float. Once our group poured onto Fifth, there was no turning back and I was able to march forward pretty far, to within a few groups of the very beginning of the parade (I had fun with the Hillary marchers, unaware that had I just stuck with them a few more blocks, I would've encountered the woman herself—oh, well, I did get Chelsea last year).

IMG_7470*The first one I fell for: The adorable Zico boy and his hairy legs.

Once I'd gotten way down from the 40s to the teens, I simply turned around and began slowly moving back against the tide in order to see as many marchers as possible.

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It was a beautiful march—colorful, exuberant, and sunny—but it surprised me that it didn't feel as pregnant with purpose as I'd expected in the wake of the Orlando mass shooting. To be sure, there were countless expressions of solidarity and sorrow over the event, most prominently in the inclusion of Pulse owner Barbara Poma and the many WE ARE ORLANDO signs, but the parade didn't have a different vibe—it was just much, much longer. Maybe that was the Pulse effect, a rush to be a part of the bigger picture, even if more than a few moms back home were wishing their LGBT kids were not going to be quite so LGBT, quite so out in the open; I guess a lot more people wanted to send the message that they were deeply affected by Orlando, but wouldn't let that stop them from being themselves in public.

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IMG_7612*Many 49ers in the crowd

The other thing I noticed more so than ever, and that drives at least some people away from the otherwise energizing event, is the relentless corporatization of it. I have argued before, and it is still my belief, that big business marketing to us is not demonic, and that if we live in a capitalist society and are the target of marketers, that is a sign of respect for our importance, our power. Also, it's psychologically vastly important that everyday brands go out of their way to support the LGBT cause openly—even if I'm not sure whether Kiehl's is a top or a bottom (probably bottom), or in what stage of transitioning Facebook may be.

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IMG_7606*Case in point: Delta Airlines had human billboards ... and yet these two pics were among my favorite due to the marcher's joy.

I appreciate that the captains of industry understand that LGBT people are there customers and are not afraid to have our back on our biggest day of the year. Frankly, we'd have to buy from them anyway.

IMG_8674*The only thing they were selling was love.

That said, it's more and more of a killjoy to see so many marchers who were casted to walk attractively alongside and while wearing a logo. This fatiguing omnipresence of big business first hit me when I heard a team leader giving what sounded like shareholders speech before his company group's step-off, was compounded by running into a young friend who was being paid to participate (would he have even gone otherwise?) and was hammered home when, at the end of the draining day I was handed three rainbow bracelets—and upon closer inspection, discovered they advertised Wyndham Rewards. Womp-womp.

IMG_7436*Whether the message is from MasterCard or Harvey Milk, it's true: Acceptance does matter.

It's not moving, this businessy side of the parade, but on the other hand, I suppose it's the biggest pie in the face of every Anita Bryant ever that Walmart's with us, and that MasterCard is telling the world #AcceptanceMatters. Because it does, but who knew MasterCard would one day care?

I think what would help me get over the $$$ aspect is if the march could somehow encourage much smaller groups to have floats (at a discounted rate?) that were being judged for creativity and messaging. That way, I think people would be less inundated with pitches (including political ones) and the parade itself would only be more fun.

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In the past, I've also read a lot about people thinking the parade is too sexy, too about perfect bodies. I really don't get that at all. I hunted for those sexy IMG_7777*bodies, and while there were plenty on display, it sure didn't feel excessive. I recall other parades in decades past that felt far more decadent. (I later wound up on the dirtiest float in the entire procession, and it suck out like a sore thumb-job.) I also just unfriended a very intelligent but ridiculously politicized writer whose posts obsess over racism and sexism and homophobic in ways that are more self-parody than self-help. The straw that broke the homo's back was his declaration that he “hates” Gay Pride, partly due to a wrenching experience he had once (which I get) but mainly due to his feeling that all the lovely bodies are shaming him and telling him he isn't good enough.

I fully understand that twinge one can get when one sees a gaggle of ostentatiously sexy, mind-bogglingly muscled gay dudes in Speedos IMG_8111* acting like they were born that way, and there are definitely a lot of boys who, like too many girls have always done in order to seem less threatening to men, fake air-headedness and flash skin until it becomes who they are. But they are not the ones telling you you're not good enough by having great beauty, you're the one telling yourself that. Get over it, enjoy their beauty and—you know what?—enjoy what you've got, too. We are all born and we all die and any one of us can get shot in a club or get cancer or get gay-bashed or anything else you can imagine, so celebrating our fleeting sexiness should be an act of pleasure and defiance, not something to make us binge-eat a bag of doughnuts and declare our hatred for gay pride.

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All that said, I did have a blast playing photojournalist (surprising that I had about a half dozen people I asked for posed pictures decline), taking portraits, candids and landscapes of the gigantic, throbbing event from noon to 3. Ultimately, there is nothing else quite like a big-city LGBT parade, even if someone, somewhere is making a little cash off of it.

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By 3, I had made my way back to where the floats were waiting to make their way down Fifth, and found the Adonis Lounge's station. I spent several hours there—we didn't step off until something like 6!—and then spent another few slowly, ever so slowly, marching the entire route. But that's for another post.

IMG_7577*Looking at these women, who wouldn't wanna be a lesbian?

Enjoy some of my favorite photos, SHARE on social media and feel free to chime in if you see anyone you know ...

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May 10 2016
ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK: Do You Know The Difference Between Pain And Suffering? Comments (0)

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The official trailer for Season 4 of Orange Is the New Black is here, and it looks like things are heading for a racially charged explosion in the newly for-profit prison ...

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Apr 28 2016
Absolutely Suzanne: Uzo Aduba Talks To THE ADVOCATE Comments (0)

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Uzo Aduba opens up to The Advocate for its A-List Interview, in which she says of gay-fan encounters:

Oh, it’s intense. It’s always big, which is great because I feel like I’m big. They’re loyalists, so welcoming and loving, and they’re open to everyone and everything. They empower me, frankly. For better or worse, long days or short, I know I have that support, and I truly feel grateful.

She says of her Orange Is the New Black character, Suzanne, that she isn't necessarily a lesbian:

I just see her as someone who wants to give and receive love, and she’s not that concerned with the package in which that love comes. I don’t think sexual orientation enters her mind. She’s just looking for her soul mate and heart partner.

Read more here.

 
Jan 30 2016
SAG Taps LGBT-Themed Winners Comments (0)

Full list of SAG Awards winners right here.

I thought the show was great, and felt right, as always. However the SAG membership works its voting is superior to the Oscars, and has the benefit of not coming dead-last in the season so as not to be overly influenced by other shows.

LGBT highlights include wins for Orange Is the New Black (see victory dance above) for comedy series and Uzo Aduba for her performance on the same show; Jeffrey Tambor for Transparent; and Alicia Vikander for The Danish Girl. Also, Queen Latifah won for Bessie, and I hear she liked women. Bessie Smith, that is.

 
Dec 15 2015
Need To Know: Full Tit + Cosby Sues To Protect Sterling Rep + THE FORCE AWAKENS In L.A. + McNudity + Adele To Go + Smith v. Trump + Madonna Feasts On Your Boos + MORE! Comments (0)

*widget boy cultureColton Haynes gets pierced. Images

*widget boy cultureCosby suing (some) accusers. Now even The Devil & Max Devlin is ruined.

*widget boy cultureStar Wars: The Force Awakens premieres. See the entire original cast.

*widget boy cultureAll 305 films eligible for Oscar consideration!

*widget boy cultureMore on that Paris climate agreement.

*widget boy cultureDustin McNeer is Mc-nude. (Work Unfriendly) 

*widget boy cultureAdele tour dates!

*widget boy cultureOh, Be Clever's “Blanket” is epic.

*widget boy cultureTAG-ing Matt Bomer & Chelsea Clinton.

*widget boy cultureOrange Is the New Black-tress addresses “assault.”

*widget boy cultureFlynt fishing for proof that Ben Carson advisor sexually harassed dudes.

*widget boy cultureMelanie Griffith serving 58-year-old selfie realness.

*widget boy cultureWill Smith gently spanks Donald Trump.

Screen Shot 2015-12-14 at 10.15.42 PMCafeteria delirium

*widget boy cultureInfamous jalapeño mac-and-cheese brat: The full story. (Video after the jump.) Images

*widget boy cultureWorld of Wonder offers helpful gift suggestions. Unnamed

*widget boy cultureWorld of Wonder sent me this pressie: Selfie stick! Images

*widget boy cultureNice c*m-gutters. (Work Friendly, surprisingly.)

*widget boy cultureEx porn star Bo Dean paralyzed in dispute.

*widget boy cultureCaitlyn Jenner apologizes for unfortunate comments.

*widget boy cultureUK papers use a couple of assholes on Twitter to gin up Madonna-bashing piece.

*widget boy cultureMadonna's speech in Manchester got cheers, not boos. People are so wimpy.

*widget boy cultureJesus, don't tell Mariah Carey she's #2 on this chart!

*widget boy cultureKeep reading for video on the mac-and-cheese brat's arrest ... Images

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Jul 25 2015
Need To Know: Blond Girl + ENDA Discrimination As We Know It + Surprise: Shooter Was Nuts + Not-So-Incredible Hulk + Just Jealous That You Can't Be Nick + MORE! Comments (0)

Screen Shot 2015-07-24 at 11.51.19 PMShe raises a couple of good points!

*widget boy cultureSWEDE HEART: Spectacular Blond Ambition World Tour footage!

*widget boy cultureNew anti-discrimination bill will benefit millions of LGBT people.

*widget boy cultureLA shooter was mentally ill, loved Hitler, hated black people.

*widget boy cultureScooter LaForge licenses some of his brilliance to Blondie. 

*widget boy cultureBlack people simply are not up to Hulk Hogan's standards.

*widget boy cultureVAST LEFT-WING CONSPIRACY: NY Times effs up Hillary story.

*widget boy cultureSome people think Biden would be a good Democratic candidate.

*widget boy cultureNew Jessica Six vid = “Down Low.”

*widget boy cultureReal-life “Alex Vause” dishes on Orange Is the New Black: “Total fiction.”

*widget boy cultureNick Jonas brags on his very good year to Billboard.

Screen Shot 2015-07-25 at 12.13.00 AMJealous much?

 


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