6 posts categorized "SANDRA BERNHARD"

Apr 20 2015
With Her, It's Always Something Comments (0)

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I'd never seen this footage of Sandra Bernhard from 1984. It's clearly some kind of workshop of Without You I'm Nothing. Great stuff...

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Nov 05 2010
Boy Culture Turns 5: My Favorite Posts Comments (23)


Img_0736As of midnight tonight, it will be exactly five years since my first post. It's hard to imagine it's been that long, and a lot's changed—the tone and subject matter are different, how often I post, my limits (no nudity in a couple of years due to ad constraints). I've devoted a crazy amount of time and money and energy to this blog for a very small financial return (you couldn't guess low enough), but it's always rewarding to have this forum with which to express myself, keep my writing ability fluid, perhaps influence a couple of people here and there, share obsessions with strangers (in both senses of the word) and learn new things.

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Here are some of the posts that were most important to Boy Culture's history. For the uninitiated, some of the oldest ones refer to Boy Culture, the movie made of my novel; I started the blog at the time Boy Culture was being filmed as a way to keep people informed of the progress...and it all snowballed from there.


Some of these posts are milestones when it comes to the hits they provided but most are filled with original writing and/or photography and video and are just the posts of which I'm proudest. I hope you'll take some time to click on them and send their links around to others—and some time is what you'll need...



FROM BOY TO MAN: BC B.C. (2007): The entire history of my novella, novel and movie Boy Culture; might be my ultimate post.

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"Your pictures suck" (2008): An art critic attacks me, but not without sustaining some hits in return.

GUYDAR (since at least January 17, 2008) & ENDS OF THE WORLD (since at least January 13, 2008): Attractive men of the world—I got your backs. Your fronts, too.

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6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f699b958834-800wiTriBeCa is for Boy lovers...

BOY ON FILM (2006): An account of the NYC launch party for Boy Culture as it played the TriBeCa Film Fest.

6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f7f10b58834-800wiI was left "Reeling" by the experience

FRIENDS AND "FAMILY" (2006): The movie version of Boy Culture hits Chicago.

RAPT PUPIL (2006): The final night of Outfest with Boy Culture; I was fat but on the other hand got to meet Bryan Singer.

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DRAWN TOGETHER (2008): How my desire to draw related to my secret desire. One of my absolute favorite posts.


6a00d8341c2ca253ef00e54f2f319b8833-800wiDeath of the party—Jeff in high school, already halfway through his life

BURNING MAN (2007): Tribute to my late high school friend and first romance.

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AN OBSESSION IS BORN (2009): One of my best posts about my obsession with...obsession.

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ILLINOIS DEATH TRIP (2007): Ruminations on death while revisiting a past home, and the past.

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PASSING BY (2008): Mourning the loss of a person I only met once.

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HAVEN'T WE MET? (2010): Celebrating my time with someone I've only met once—Madonna.

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Jun 03 2010
I Felt The Magic Comments (16)


Photo courtesy of Bruce Glikas 



I had so much fun attending the event for Belinda Carlisle's Lips Unsealed at Barnes & Noble's 86th Street and Lexington location last night! Part of the fun factor was the Q&A format headed up by the hilarious Sandra Bernhard, part of it was Carlisle's eventual willingness to indulge her (certifiable) fans and part of it was seeing so many familiar faces in such a familiar "fandemonium" setting.

QuickTime PlayerScreenSnapz004I'm a fan of fandom, devoted to the devoted, and the "café Carlisle" served up a simmering brew of idolizers, from diehard Go-Go's followers to Belinda maniacs (instead of Deadheads, maybe Redheads?) to quite a few people who seemed like they'd have attended whether it was Belinda Carlisle or FILL IN THE BLANK making a personal appearance.


I found out about the event from Carlisle's book publicist Penny, then stumbled across info suggesting that only those attendees with wristbands would be guaranteed entry...and wristbands were going on sale at 9 a.m. day-of. Deciding to go all-in, I showed up at 8, finding myself fifth in line behind four people whom I know are bigger fans than I. (And who were not the lunatics who showed up in alarming numbers later.)

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'Don't even get me started on my Belinda Carlisle obsession...' 

IMG_5957 I chatted with a cute guy about how all fans like to think we're as fanatical as socially acceptable without being "too much," and then met this very funny guy from Vermont named Tom (pictured) who I think straddles that gray zone perfectly—he's a fan with flawless credentials (he met the band in 1984 and again in 1994 and knows enough to reference House of Schock and urine popsicles) and yet would never, for example, get in a fist fight over who got to an event first (more on that later).

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Mar 14 2010
Orange You GLAAD You Came? Comments (7)

SafariScreenSnapz001 GLAAD's Rich Ferraro has consistently invited me to his organization's events and I've consistently declined; I officially cover so many events for my dayjob and unofficially cover so many events on my blog for fun that my thought has been I don't really need to hyperextend myself by marrying the two and officially covering an event for my blog.


Gays & thespians: Honoree Nixon with Prayers for Bobby's Weaver

But The 21st Annual GLAAD Media Awards were honoring Cynthia Nixon and Joy Behar (two of my favorite redheads—the red carpet was truly red/orange...it was a Night of 1,000 Gingers) so I made it my first red carpet, quickly discovering that doing an event with no boss to please and nothing to lose and yet having orchestrated access to the main attractions can wind up being the best of both worlds—officially fun.


From where I stood 

IMG_5406 I arrived around 3PM for press check-in. There was a crush of people and the nice lady at the desk wasn't; I asked where to go and she said up the escalator, which isn't really that descriptive considering I was in the Marriott Marquis in Times Square (a place I was at on 9/10/01, and where I discussed going to the World Trade Center the following day to get TKTS tickets for a show...something that never panned out, obviously). I went up, as commanded, but couldn't figure out where to go next. I was pointed in many directions, finally landing on the third floor. (You'll see from the photos that I was much even more disheveled and droopy than usual.)

All my B-roll footage:

Here, I found my spot on the line—right toward the end. Red carpets are like the social caste system made manifest, or like a literal food chain. On the latter, I would be the seeds the birds poop out to keep the plants growing. To make it less metaphorical, I was two slots behind something called Autostraddle.com, which I refuse to look up because it sounds like one of those mechanical dildo sites. (I broke down and looked it up—it's a kinda great lesbian site with lots of traffic.)

6a0115715184aa970b0120a6a04830970b-500wi But it turns out my spot wasn't so bad (considering I'm just some guy with a blog) because most of the stars were rather available and those who weren't were stopping to my left to do stuff with GLAAD. At first, I was right next to Ben Harvey and Dave Rubin of Ben & Dave's Six Pack (pictured, image from Metrosource). They were also covering for Queerty, though I wondered if they might not get less frozen reactions if they left the Queerty part out (I still link to Queerty, but I think it's fair to describe it as somewhat caustic). They were cute and as nice as can be; I point this out because the act of having a six-pack makes people gushingly nice, but the act of having six-pack abs usually does the opposite. They were professional and hot, the types of guys you wouldn't hate being stuck on a crowded elevator with, so I hoped they'd help attract stars, Suddenly Last Summer-style.


Samara puts the Reichen Lehmkuhls on the spot 

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Jun 11 2009
Bernhard: With A Vengeance Comments (5)

IMG_2441Confession: She's still a pretty (funny) lady.

Sandra Bernhard was in rare form at her one-night-only 20th (or so) anniversary 0408-SandraBernhard-3.5x4.6875-4c-3-thumb performance of Without You I'm Nothing at Town Hall in Manhattan last night. Rare because, as much as that original show completely cracked me up (even if I only ever experienced it as the mind-fucking hilarious avant-garde documentary) as both funny stand-up and as an unembarrassed flaunting of a performer's encyclopedic pop-culture knowledge, she has almost never truly amused me since.

IMG_2442Without Madonna, she's something.

Of course, being a Madonna stalwart, it was hard to continue embracing Bernhard after their highly public rift because instead of letting it go she has seemed to IMG_2444 continue bashing Madonna ever since. Maybe Madonna was a total cunt to her, maybe she never fucked Bernhard but did fuck her girlfriend Ingrid Casares—I have no idea. But whatever happened, and no matter who was to blame for breaking up the so-called "Snatch Batch," it affected Bernhard so deeply it seemed to me she was knocked off her game and has never recovered it fully. She was a highlight of Will & Grace, but she's never had a creatively satisfying follow-up to Without You. (I'm Still Here, Damn It didn't do it for me, damn it!) Maybe the fact that this latest tour has incorporated the best bits from that ground-breaking set will be rejuvenating; her fresh material still is not being taken as seriously by Bernhard (it's delivered as traditional stand-up and not in that bewitchingly self-absorbed cabaret persona that delivered the original show and she had to consult her notes to remember some of it), but it's pretty damn funny.

After entering the (not sold out) hall to a partial standing O, Bernhard—an ageless 54 in a slinky black cocktail dress, her hair up—generously walked us through the Carol Kruger tear-jerker (reinvented as narcissistic knee-slapper) "The Commitment," segueing into a pastiche of classic showtunes (a highlight being a fragment of Barbra Streisand's "People" sung with Ethel Merman's sensitivity) before some funny remembrances of her recent stint in England.

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May 06 2009
A Vote Falls Between The Crack Comments (3)


Believe it or not, Sandra Bernhard and Marion Barry do agree on at least one thing (and should agree on more since he's a "Democrat"): Black people are homophobic. In Attitude's latest issue, Bernhard is asked if she thinks there "is still a bit of pretence with Obama" on LGBT issues due to "a worry amount of religiosity." Her reply:

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