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Feb 09 2016
Team Steam: Gay Bathhouses Mainstreaming? Comments (0)

So gay (not LGBT!) bathhouses are rebranding and becoming cool again. Check out Frank Melleno's (Work Unfriendly) Polaroids from The Fairoaks Hotel bathhouse in San Francisco Continental_flyer.jpg.CROP.article250-medium.jpg1978 to get an idea of what most people think of when they think of bathhouses.

According to Hawpost:

At its prime, bathhouses were cool because of their popularity among gay, bi and closeted men. There used to be somewhat of a beauty competition on who was allowed to enter these establishments. Sort of like the lines at the hottest nightclub in town where bouncers let in the most gorgeous and stunning people as others get left behind. The 75 year-old president of the North American Bathhouse Association also known as NABA, Dennis Holding recalls his experience of this in the 1970s:

“There was a club in LA called The 8709. It was on the second floor. In its day, there would be a line down the stairs to the street, and you’d wait and you’d climb all the way up, and if the attendant didn’t like your looks he wouldn’t let you in. I got rejected there once, but I got let in three or four times, and I remember the process quite well. But if they thought you weren’t attractive enough they wouldn’t let you in.”

At the height of their success, there were about 700 bathhouses operating throughout the country in the late 1980s. Today that number is down to a merely 60 in operation!

“The acceptance of gays has changed the whole world,” Dennis Holding, who owns a small bathhouse in Miami told the AP. “It’s taken away the need to sneak around places like these and today, you can go to the supermarket, launch your Grindr app and hook-up.”

Yes technology and social media have changed the rules of the game but technology will never be able to replace the safe and comfortable environment that the baths have to offer. At least not yet. Although Grindr can connect you with guys you MIGHT think look like their profile pictures, it doesn’t give you an easy option to walk away once you meet the guy for the first time.

I've actually never been inside a bathhouse. Am I missing out?

 
Little Pricks: Steve Grand Tackles Objectification Issue Comments (0)

Steve-GrandVideo still via Steve Grand

Steve Grand addresses that time last summer when he was a little annoyed with gay blogs using and re-using his old Speedo photos, but makes clear he has NO problem being objectified. He never said don't objectify him. He's still talking about it mainly because people still snarkily bring up that he's the guy who shows skin and complains about showing skin (which he's not).

“I've learned how to take much more than that” would be a good sound byte for a dirty Steve Grand audio file.

Keep reading for his take on the issue of flaunting your body as a gay male artist vs. as a straight female artist ...

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6-PACK — Kathryn Knott That Innocent + Wicked Gay Return + Selfless Kim Davis Selfie? + Michigan Outlaws Funnest Sex + REAL SISTER WIVES OF NEW YORK + Steven Avery's Twins' Verdict! Comments (0)

Kathryn-KnottKnott as seen in publicly released surveillance footage (L) and in her public mug shot (R)

*widget boy cultureGay-bashing Kathryn Knott sentenced to 5 to 10 months in jail.

*widget boy cultureWicked Gay Blog is back!

*widget boy cultureWhy this gay dude took a selfie with Kim Davis.

*widget boy cultureWHAT WATER CRISIS?: MI Republicans outlaw sodomy.

*widget boy cultureRamona Singer dated LuAnn de Lesseps's fiancé.

*widget boy cultureSteven Making a Murderer Avery's twin sons speak out on his guilt.

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6-PACK — Beyoncé's I-Popping Super Bowl Snaps + Musto vs. Gay-On-Gay Hate + STAR WARS Toys Or Sex Toys? + Bernie Sanders & John Kasich Win A Tiny Election! + Mike Bloomberg Wants To Ruin Your Life + SPORTS ILLUSTRATED On Hot Jocks! Comments (0)

*widget boy cultureBeyoncé's to-die-for Super Bowl photos. ABOVE: Louis Virtel's Super Bowl wrap.

*widget boy cultureMichael Musto asks why so many LGBT people hate each other.

*widget boy cultureAre these Star Wars toys or dildos? Why can't they be both?

*widget boy cultureSanders & Kasich win Dixville Notch, NH, early vote.

*widget boy cultureBloomberg may run for prez, which = He and Dem candidate lose. Period.

*widget boy cultureSports Illustrated tackles subject of beautiful football jocks.

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6-PACK — Marco Rubio's Expensive Gaffe + The Cases For/Against Hillary Clinton + Gay For Carly Fiorina + Ryan Reynolds's Hot Sex Scene + CHULO Underwear Show + More Power To Beyoncé! Comments (0)

*widget boy cultureDue to the above, Marco Rubio's big-money backers put their bucks on pause.

*widget boy cultureLong reads: “The Case for Hillary.” Also, the case against.

*widget boy cultureNH gay man loves Carly Fiorina, who congratulated him on his wedding.

*widget boy cultureRyan Reynolds: “I may be sitting on this man's face at some point ...”

*widget boy cultureCHULO Underwear fashion event.

*widget boy cultureRudy Giuliani decries Beyoncé's black-power salute during the halftime show. 

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Feb 07 2016
Lie Down, Sir: Revisiting MAURICE 30 Years After It Was Filmed Comments (0)

DSC06487James Ivory (L) & Pierre Lhomme (R) before a screening of Maurice (Image by Matthew Rettenmund)

Earlier this week, I was excited to attend one screening that was a part the FIAF (French Institute Alliance Française) series Screen Shot 2016-02-06 at 4.54.13 PMCinéSalon: Lhomme Behind the Camera, which is running through February 23 at Florence Gould Hall (55 E. 59th St., NYC).

The series honors French cinematographer Pierre Lhomme, 85, whose work on a variety of classics and interesting efforts is said to have “helped shape the careers of iconic directors, including Chris Marker, Jean-Pierre Melville and James Ivory.”

Screen Shot 2016-02-06 at 4.02.35 PMSample of three posters for the film; I had the middle one on my wall in collage. (Images via Cinecom)

The event that I was lucky enough to take in was a screening of the 1987 Merchant-Ivory film Maurice (pronounced Morris)a lushly romantic adaptation of the 1913 gay-themed novel by E.M. Forster that was not published until 1971, due to concerns that its subject matter could be ruled obscene.

Not only was Lhomme present, but director James Ivory, 87, also appeared to briefly introduce the film and then take part in a Q&A after, which I wouldn't have missed.

Tumblr_ngd0utOU4W1u01g6zo5_1280James Wilby as Maurice, the cat at the center of Forster's great gay love story (Image via Cinecom)

When I was in college at the University of Chicago—a school I attended in large part because I randomly found a queer students' union flyer when I went to visit, not even focusing on the school's reputation for academics—I had a job with a literary agent in the Fine Arts Building downtown. Maurice played that quaint venue, and I knew I could not miss it, even -I-love-you-maurice-1987-13009433-720-406though it would mark the first time I saw a gay movie in public. I remember being scared to death buying the ticket, and then sitting in the theater, wondering if a man would try to grab my knee or something, and wondering if I might be recognized. (I was out to some high school friends back home, but almost no one on campus quite yet.)

I couldn't have asked for a more beautiful film to see in that phase of my life. I appreciated the unrepentant emotionality of Maurice (James Wilby) and Clive (Hugh Grant), as well as the cautionary aspect of Clive's retreat into the closet. Most uplifting to me was the film's happy ending, in which the upper-class Maurice finds passion and—just maybe—eternal happiness with a working-class stiff (Rupert Graves). As I told Mr. Ivory after the screening, the movie represented to me a true gay love story, and also a cautionary tale, but one that dealt with very contemporary issues (coming out) and did not feature characters who had to be punished for their alleged sins.

At the time, Roger Ebert begrudgingly gave the film three stars, but noted:

Maurice tells the story of a young English homosexual who falls in love with two completely different men, and in their differences is the whole message of the movie, a message I do not agree with. Yet because the film is so well made and acted, because it captures its period so meticulously, I enjoyed it even in disagreement ... The problem in the movie is with the gulf between his romantic choices. His first great love, Clive, is a person with whom he has a great deal in common. They share minds as well as bodies. Scudder, the gamekeeper, is frankly portrayed as an unpolished working-class lad, handsome but simple. In the England of 1914, with its rigid class divisions, the two men would have had even less in common than the movie makes it seem, and the real reason their relationship is daring is not because of sexuality but because of class. Apart from their sexuality, they have nothing of substance to talk about with each other in this movie. No matter how deep their love, I suspect that within a few weeks or months the British class system would have driven them apart.

Okay, well, what about 1990's Pretty Woman, a piece of fluff about a rich CEO falling for a streetwalking prostitute? Ebert gave it a far more enthusiastic three-and-a-half-star write-up. What about the characters' differences? Well:

He offers her money to spend one week with him, she accepts, he buys her clothes, they have sex and of course (this being the movies) they fall in love. They fall into a particularly romantic kind of love, the sort you hardly see in the movies these days - a love based on staying awake after the lights are out and confiding autobiographical secrets ... There could indeed be, I suppose, an entirely different movie made from the same material —a more realistic film, in which the cold economic realities of the lives of both characters would make it unlikely they could stay together ... But by the end of the movie I was happy to have it close as it does.

Yeah, so gays can't get one happy ending, but straights could, back then, get them every single time without a raised eyebrow. Perfect. (Decades later, Maurice is the better-reviewed and better-respected of the two films—91% on Rotten Tomatoes with 87% audience approval—even if Pretty Woman62%/68%—is an immortal piece of pop culture because one of the leads had a vagina.)

10168980724_6eb461c4e6_bHugh Grant has had a very good hair life. (Image via Cinecom)

Watching it again 29 years later was moving in that I remembered so many scenes as if I'd seen the film a thousand times (just once). Even the music was a strong sense-memory—I had bought the album and listened to it over and over. It's an exquisite, evocative score by the late Richard Robbins, who did many of the Merchant-Ivory films, and who passed away in 2012. It was a treat to relive this experience, and I must say my fetishization of Hugh Grant's hair in this film (he isn't really high on my list of crushes anymore) and of every inch of Rupert Graves (he is) remains intact.

Afterward, Ivory and Lhomme took questions from the audience, some intelligent and some head-scratchers, including a long one from a woman who wanted to know if the actors were gay (!) and if the director had cast beautiful men as a comment on gay narcissism (gay!!!).

Two things that irked me: The woman next to me made a comment that my camera was making too much noise (it makes a very faint electronic whir when it turns on) before the film even started, and yet she wound up being the culprit when a wind-chime alarm blared throughout the last five full minutes of the movie. She also kept asking me to confirm what the subjects had said during the interview, even though I was clearly videoing everything.

Tumblr_inline_mkqgzjX3LH1qz4rgpScudder, off to London to get his (gentle)man. (Image via Cinecom)

The other bummer was that the very last question ended with a statement that Graves's character Scudder was “possibly the worst person alive.” I was blown away by this assertion, as was I think Ivory, who didn't address it.

I asked the questioner afterward what he meant. “Oh, are you a Scudder apologist?” he asked me. Gee, I don't really think Scudder needs apologies made for him. Anyway, the younger guy asserted that he and all of his reading group all hated Scudder. Apparently, the segment in which Scudder—who had hoped to make love with Maurice again but found himself ignored—bluffed that he might blackmail his lover made this guy think Scudder was evil and manipulative. To me, it seemed baldly obvious that the intent of the author and the director was to show that Scudder genuinely loved Maurice and was extremely insecure when rejected. He specifically, warm-heartedly folds when pushed by Maurice, and explains he'd never take a penny from him.

Tumblr_mk5lk1XDN51r2e74go8_500RupertGraves05They were there, they were queer, they got used to it. (Images via Cinecom)

Scudder risked his security by coming to have sex with Maurice the first time, then he gave up his security in the Argentines (as well as contact with his family) to spend what we hope will be the rest of his life with the guy. Putting aside how sexy Scudder is (check out this scorching montage of love scenes), he is nuts for Maurice,  and he represents the non-judgmental self-actualization that Maurice needs and embraces, in stark contrast to the life of lies and self-denial that Clive has slid into and advocates. If Scudder is the worst person ever, what is Clive? It just seems to me that it's an accepted observation that Maurice was written by Forster explicitly to be a gay love story with a happy ending. If Maurice ends up with Scudder and it's supposed to be a happy ending, I have to believe Scudder is not supposed to be an unpleasant drama queen.

Tumblr_lq5lroluFz1qa22qso1_500Theirs was a love that dared speak its name. (Image via Cinecom)

It was an interesting exchange, but one of those times when you not only have an impression you feel strongly, but your impression fits with the only possibly explanation of an artist's work. I will say that the ending has some room for interpretation in that we can't be sure the men will be happy always. Ivory mentioned to me that one complicating factor would be World War I, but he also said it was, indeed, supposed to be a happy ending.

032_hugh_grant_theredlistOh, Mr. Graaant! (Image via Cinecom)

Check out the my video, containing most of the answers and comments from Ivory and Lhomme, after the jump ...

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Feb 06 2016
Bi George: Boy Bander Comes Out Comments (0)

Screen Shot 2016-02-06 at 2.50.19 AMVideo still via George Shelley

Via Instinct: British Union J boy bander George Shelley has come out as not straight in a short, to-the-point video meant to address speculation about his sexuality.

He said, in part:

It's all these labels, and it's a little bit old-fashioned, and this is why I'm not gonna label it myself ... I've had girlfriends that I've loved, and that've been amazing periods of my life, but I've also had boyfriends, and I also want you to know that whether I decide to be with a girl next or be with a guy next, that it's because I love them, and that it shouldn't be a big deal, and I don't wanna make a big thing out of it when, when it happens, and I don't wanna be scared anymore ...

Hear his entire monologue after the jump ...

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Feb 05 2016
6-PACK — Funny Ha-Ha/Funny Queer + Lips Before Hips + Well-Hung + Animal Urges + Booby Flack + Last Supper! Comments (0)

Screen Shot 2016-02-05 at 2.24.58 PMCher and Cher alike. (Video still via Logo)

*widget boy cultureYES HOMO: Gay Skit Happens is coming to Logo February 8.

*widget boy cultureAdult virgin Tim Tebow lip syncs “Eye of the Tiger” in a wifebeater.

*widget boy cultureL.A. getting massive, simultaneous Robert Mapplethorpe exhibits.

*widget boy cultureWhy must sex lubes be tested on helpless animals? Get a sub to do it.

*widget boy culturePiers Morgan officially detests older women with breasts.

*widget boy cultureMary Fiumara, Prince spaghetti mama, dies @ 88.

Screen Shot 2016-02-05 at 2.15.06 PMIt's Prince spaghetti day! (Image via YouTube)

 


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