Time has been trying hard to become more youthful, edgier, more entertainment-savvy and more clickable, and this palpably angry piece by college junior Sierra Mannie is the latest example of that trend. It will definitely get lots and lots of attention.

I'm quite sure that most white, gay men who read this will react bitterly, denounce her, say she's the one who's a racist, etc. Maybe some will unwittingly prove one of her points by re-tweeting it with a big ol', “Oh, no she din't!”

But here's my take: I totally get what she's saying in some of this piece, even if it is unnecessarily angry—and it is unnecessarily angry.

(Be angry about racial inequities—that makes sense. But why so vitriolic against people who are, at worst, being a little condescending or presumptuous? They're not your enemies, unless you think gay, white men are de facto enemies. Unfortunately, Mannie's piece comes off as homophobic when she uses the tired old complaint that comes from many anti-gay black separatists: “The difference is that the black women with whom you think you align so well, whose language you use and stereotypical mannerisms you adopt, cannot hide their blackness and womanhood to protect themselves the way that you can hide your homosexuality. We have no place to hide, or means to do it even if we desired them.” Lots of gay people do hide their sexuality, but don't kid yourself, Ms. Mannie, if black people could do the same, the same percentage of black people would do it. That's because all people, across the board, are just as susceptible to fear, self-doubt and weakness.)

I, too, think it's really embarrassing and uncomfortable when I see white, gay guys approach a black girl they don't even know and immediately put on a hey, girl act. It's the modern-day equivalent of rubbing her head for luck, guys, and it's definitely something I can see being an irritant.

But I am not very receptive to culture-vulture arguments from any quarters because they always strike me as coming from someone who is a part of a larger group that has contributed much more to the world than he or she has individually. Be proud of what your group has contributed, but don't act like you, personally, own it. You don't. Check your privilege.

Nor are you the sold arbiter of it.

For example, Mannie brings up Beyoncé in the same essay in which she decries the fact that black culture is being taken from black people and repackaged and watered down and sold to white consumers. Well, what about when the salespeople are black themselves? Isn't Beyoncé as much—if not much more—of the problem that Mannie is complaining about? If she is, then why isn't Beyoncé on the receiving end of the complaint? Why be angry at the consumers and not at the merchants?

I  agree with Mannie stressing that white people are not racially oppressed (she writes it three times for emphasis), which is something white people still truly do not want to accept or think about, but I don't agree that just because black people are racially oppressed, that means it's wrong for white people to eagerly consume and reflect their culture. It's actually a step in the right direction when young white kids are open to black culture and feel like it's not specifically black—it only helps make racial oppression less likely in the future. In the past, black culture, via entertainment, was enjoyed even while white people gleefully and intentionally oppressed them. But over time, black culture has become not just an isolated, ethnic entertainment but a massively influential and more broadly American culture. And it's no coincidence that racial oppression—while by no means gone—is far less tolerated now than ever before.

So while I appreciate Mannie's frustration and I probably think she makes more solid points than most of my white, gay friends would ever concede, I still think her animus is misplaced and at times disturbing. Oh, and that crack about bottoming for black dudes comes dangerously close to a complaint that white gay men are stealing black men. I'm hopeful that won't be her follow-up essay.

And just to end things on a lighter note: Gay guys out there hoping to take on black-girl or just girl realness, be warned: