Most people with penises learn to ejaculate at a young age. Often in silence, secrecy, and shame.
The problem? Most men unknowingly take this “fast and furious” approach with them to adulthood. As a result, they focus too much on reaching ejaculation and too little on the pleasure that precedes it.
With 20% of men jerking more than 4x a week and nearly 80% saying it’s a form of self-care, there's plenty of work to do.
If you're jerking off the way you did in high school, it's time to expand your views on male pleasure.
With the help of sex toys, non-penile stimulation (think prostate), and exotic masturbation techniques, you'll gain orgasm breakthroughs beyond imagination.
In this article, satiate your curiosity by learning 11 masturbation tips and techniques. Prepare to feel really, really GOOD.
1. Slow Down
The fast-and-furious method has its pros.
You might want to feel relaxed, get a good night’s sleep, or feel buzzed before rushing to the office.
However, most men rush masturbation even when there's no need, exacerbating premature ejaculation issues and lessening the pressure.
Slow down (like Brandon Stansell did in his song)! Build the anticipation and focus on the sensation instead. Doing so leads to much more powerful and prolonged orgasms.
2. Different Strokes for Different Folks
The up-and-down motion is a classic masturbation technique we all know and love. For most men, it's a tried-and-true technique that guarantees orgasm 100% of the time.
But why stop there? Experimenting with different motions is the key to discovering more profound ways to achieve a better climax.
One incredible technique is to use long, slow, twisting strokes from base to tip. The twisting allows you to maximize your hand-to-penis interaction in one stroke, while slow speed prolongs the delicious sensation.
You can also masturbate the shaft while using the other hand to palm and pull the penis head. The stimulation on both parts feels overwhelming at first, but the intense finish makes it worthwhile.
Masturbation strokes work best with copious amounts of lube and a relaxed headspace.
3. Penetrate a Fleshlight
Newsflash: men use sex toys, too. For penis-owners, the Fleshlight, otherwise known as masturbation sleeves or pocket pussies, are popular handheld toys you penetrate with your penis to replicate the sensation of actual vaginal, anal, oral sex.
If you want a cheap, hands-free option, you can try inserting the Fleshlight between couch cushions or pillows, shut your eyes and plunge inside like it's the real thing.
With so many Fleshlight textures, from tentacle suction cups to anal sleeves, it's imperative to do your homework to find which pocket pussy might work best for you (this is a good guide to check).
If you want to up your game a notch, try a penis machine instead. Not for the weak of will!
As always, apply generous amounts of lube for the best sensations. Make sure to clean it thoroughly with soap and water afterward!
4. Switch Positions
It's not very obvious, but your body position makes a significant difference when you're masturbating. Switching up positions also adds some thrill and excitement to your routine meat pounding.
If you usually jack off standing up, try leaning against a wall or counter with your hips pushed forward. Doing so extends your penis outwards and gives you more room to masturbate.
Strutting around in this position makes you look confident and a bit naughty, which can be a huge turn-on for some men.
If you masturbate lying on your back, consider doing it while sitting on a chair or the bed.
Changing positions adds intrigue and maximizes your stroking sensations. Who knows, you might discover your next default position.
5. Masturbate After an Intense Workout
One big part of rock-solid erections is healthy circulation.
Ever felt horny after a bench press? You're not alone. Intense workouts stimulate our body's endocrine system to release “feel-good” hormones like dopamine, adrenaline, and testosterone.
These chemicals flood your system, igniting your sex drive and pushing blood down to your sex organs.
Men often deal with a post-workout erection by rubbing it out in the warm shower, promoting their sense of well-being and relaxing aching muscles and joints.
6. Stimulate Your Friend, the Frenulum
The frenulum is the small piece of skin between the foreskin and the underside of your glans penis. It's highly sensitive and responds well to finger or tongue stimulation. Here's what you should do:
Lightly grip the shaft with your non-dominant hand. This is to sustain the momentum build-up as your cock twitches near the end.
Then, massage your frenulum's sweet spot (whatever spot feels good) with your dominant hand's middle or index finger. Your foreskin and glans penis should be retracted as far as possible to make the finger stimulation more sensitive.
It might take a few minutes to turn the sensation remotely pleasurable. Once you have it, move your finger gently, almost teasingly around the spot, and don't stop until you reach the edge of orgasm and beyond.
The key to this technique is patience and considerable alone time. After some time of feeling the ticklish, almost itchy sensation, you'll be rewarded with a massive orgasm that'll dry up your balls for sure.
7. The Blowjob Hand
Everyone loves a good, sloppy blowjob. What if you could do it with just your hands and a dollop of lube?
This sophisticated wanking technique requires a bit of self-control. If you want to simulate a hot and intimate BJ, think soft and sensual while you're doing what I'm about to explain.
Make an “OK” hand gesture with your well-lubricated index finger and thumb. Next, move the finger formation over your penis glans slowly, akin to a lover's soft lips caressing over your cock.
You can also bypass the kung fu fingers by investing in a high-quality bj machine instead.
8. Don't Forget Your Prostate
We have our prostate the way women have their G-spot.
It's the highly erogenous spot in your anus.
Plenty of men shy away from having anything to do with their assholes, with taboo and other personal biases to blame.
However, the brave few who cross the other side find a new world of sexual possibilities.
Prostate stimulation allows you to achieve orgasm without ever touching your penis. Remember those dry pre-pubescent orgasms that felt like forever? Yep, that's the one.
You can reach this male G-spot by inserting a lubricated finger up your anus or with a prostate massager (here's a good guide) designed for this purpose.
...Or use a dildo alone, or with a partner.
The prostate location varies with every person's anatomy, but it's usually around 2 inches in your rectum. You'll feel a “tingly” feeling in your tummy when you've hit the spot.
After getting really horny and tapping the prostate lightly, something extreme happens, and you essentially experience a full-body orgasm that leaves your skin extremely sensitive afterward.
With more practice, you'll be able to achieve multiple climaxes without ever feeling the “down” that comes from penile orgasms. Win-win!
9. Give Your Balls Some Love
Testicles are notoriously ignored parts of the male anatomy, masturbation-wise. They deserve more than juggling around while you tug your meat.
Caressing, rubbing, fondling, or lightly teasing your balls is an underrated technique to increase arousal and achieve more intense orgasms. It also helps you feel more at ease when your partner decides to explore beyond your penis.
Plenty of men also massage their perineum, the area between the testicles and anus, while they're at it. Touching these erogenous zones often makes the process as enjoyable as the orgasm itself.
10. Try Edging
Edging, otherwise referred to as the “stop-and-start” approach, helps you enjoy the sensory experience of masturbation rather than rushing headlong into ejaculation. It's essentially on the opposite spectrum of speed jerking and provides you with amplified orgasms that'll leave your semen stores empty.
It's pretty straightforward: work yourself up to the point of ejaculation, cool off a bit, and resume. Repeat this process three or four times, cum.
11. A Change of Hands
Ever notice how your non-dominant hand feels weird when you use it to write or other fine motor skills your dominant hand usually performs?
Well, you can use this to your naughty advantage.
If you're right-handed, try jerking off with your left hand for a change. It'll feel like a stranger is jerking you off (close your eyes for amplified effect!).
Okay, ready for something more extreme?
You might also try “The Stranger” — a technique where you sit on your hand until it falls asleep then use that hand to masturbate. It'll feel stranger than the non-dominant technique but in a delicious way.
Conclusion
Masturbation is good and not something to be ashamed of. It's one of the easiest and most accessible ways to relax, have fun, and be happy in general.
If a technique doesn't work for you, there are tens of hundreds of others to choose from.
Remember, the penis is just one tool in the shed for rocking your boat. Be creative and explore!
COMMENTS