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Aug 16 2022
Encyclopedia Madonnica Update — Pre-Order! Comments (0)
*****EM 20 COVER BY ALEJANDRO MOGOLLO EM20_RE_Cover_071816My new cover will be something you won't want to gloss over ... (Image via Boy Culture LLC)
BIG NEWS about my Encyclopedia Madonnica — I have worked for months with my designer, Anthony Coombs, giving the book its first total overhaul/update in over six years!
The book is finished and the plan is to release it on Amazon and other outlets in September!
* Just under 100 more pages
* New images
* Exclusive interviews (including Liz Rosenberg's first Madonna-centric interview in 30 years)
* A never-before-seen, early-years studio cover shot
Encyclopedia Madonnica is BIGGER and better than ever!
The book will retail for $90. (Hardcover is $125. Only printing about 50 of those — they're not numbered or limited edition per se, just very expensive to produce! But you are welcome to send $125 instead of $75 and you can order that one.)
For anyone who pre-orders the book from me directly — STARTING NOW — the TOTAL cost is $75 (or $125 for hardcover), which includes shipping anywhere on Planet Earth. I will order each copy manually once the book is available. (I can't sign — they will ship directly from the printer.)
Preferred payment method — be sure your correct shipping address is:
Jun 17 2022
The Pictures Of Vernon Gray: UPDATED Comments (0)

Vernon-gray-boycultureGray history (Images via head shot & IG)

The following is a post from 2010 that many readers seemed to enjoy. Over the years, I heard various rumors about what ever happened to Vernon Gray, but the mystery may finally be solved.

A follower of mine on my Gr8erDays IG messaged me to tell me Mr. Gray died, age 94, in Mexico, on June 13, 2022. Incredibly, even though his most personal family photos fell into my hands via eBay (possibly a storage locker situation?), he was alive all this time.

I asked his friend and caregiver why he hadn't reached out sooner, while Gray was living, but he would only say Gray did not wish to be found. Unless I get more information from this person, I won't know why he opted to live away from any distant relatives, how his life turned out or even if he were openly gay. (His photos made clear he was a gay man.)

A bittersweet ending to a mystery that has long captivated me.



Vernon gray“With all my love to Mom & Dad

My dogs own about 100 toys, but I can't remember the last time we got them a toy that entered into the pantheon of toys that truly drive them crazy like their hard plastic play keyrings.
I used to think it's because they love to chew, but they could chew any number of other, similar toys, so that's not the whole picture. Then I thought it was the keys' forbidden allure — if they chew too long they're eating plastic, so we take them away after a short time.

IMG_3908My current dogs meeting a toy that belonged to my childhood dog, Cinnamon. 

PreviewScreenSnapz001 But instead, I think part of it is the fact that this kind of toy was among the very first we ever gave them.

I think it's impossible to fall in love with new objects or experiences as hard as you did with certain objects and experiences when you were young and you had so few objects and experiences with which to compare them. And I think that the things we love the most are the things that remind us of when we were kids, or that were among the first things for which our appreciation made us feel we were growing up.

DISCRORY A disco Valentine I've always kept. (Image via Hallmark)

BODYDOUBLE That's why I think certain objects and experiences hit my nostalG-spot in ways that don't — and don't have to — make artistic sense. I can't really explain why Looker or Golden Girls or Body Double or The Eyes of Laura Mars are visual comfort food for me — in some of the cases, I could semi-objectively argue that aspects of them are just plain quality, but overall, it's not so much about the quality as it is about an indescribable quality these experiences (more than “shows” or “movies”) produced in me when I was young, and that they still trigger in me now that I'm old and too jaded to jump on every new bandwagon.

Boblo Michigan's amazement park (Image via Boblo Island)

4 I was watching some of those triggers while I spent the past five or so days obsessively picking over all my belongings, another activity always sure to tickle that nostalG-spot. My goal was to organize and hopefully edit; I accomplished that, if only meagerly (I dumped or marked for sale about three boxes' worth of stuff), but maybe the secret goal was simply to bask in the feelings I get looking at the things I've acquired.

It's blatant materialism, but not in the sense of a Marilyn Monroe character working a guy in exchange for something square-cut or pear-shape. It's totemic.

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Apr 13 2022
Gay Lovers From The Past + QUEER AS FOLK & HEARTSTOPPER Coming + Subway Killer Caught + MORE! — 6-PACK Comments (0)

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Nov 06 2021
BOY CULTURE Turns 16 Comments (0)


Happy 16th anniversary this week to BoyCulture.com, the little blog that could, did, and probably shouldn't anymore — but is.

Thanks for coming back to read what I post, and thanks to those of you who share my posts.

Follow me elsewhere, because this shit can't last:















Oct 27 2021
BOY CULTURE: THE SERIES Wins Audience Choice Award @ Seattle Queer Film Fest Comments (0)

Boy-culture-boyculture-series-tv-movies-derek-magyar-darryl-stephens-gay-jason-caceres(Image via Seattle Queer Film Festival)

A little good news on a sad day — my poor dog had what appears to be a stroke. His prognosis, so far, is decent; his vet hopes he returns to normal or semi-normal in a week or two. But it was horrible to witness, and at 3:35 a.m., so disorienting.

But Boy Culture: The Series (Episode 1) was awarded Audience Choice: Best Overall Short at the Seattle Queer Film Festival. The ray of light is so appreciated!

Oct 25 2021
BOY CULTURE: THE SERIES At NewFest Comments (0)

Boy-culture-boyculture-newfestStaging gracefully (Image via John Stanton)

Sunday afternoon, I returned to NewFest as a filmmaker for the first time since June 2006 — here is my very early post from that visit.

This time around, I was honored to be part of a Q&A after the NewFest Episodic Showcase, which featured episodes from Boy Culture: The Series as well as Hetero (co-director/DP/editor Bentley Eldridge 2nd from right), Querencia, Bridesman (creator/writer John Onieal far left, me next to him), The Ex Cycle (director David Cork, third from left), Your Eyes, Ms./Manage (director Caralene Robinson third from right).

Newfest-boyculture-boy-culture-gay-matthew-rettenmund-q-allan-brockaBeen 15 years since my last NewFest as a filmmaker! (Image via NewFest)

Special thanks to Alamin Yohannes for moderating the Q&A!

The series were spectacular. Hetero — about a school's bratty Breakfast Club of a gay-straight alliance that must add straights or be disbanded — was put together by actual teenagers; Bentley graciously praised all of us as real professionals, but watching his creation, I'd say he's one of us.

Querencia tells the story of a Native American woman who breaks up with her high school sweetheart to make a life for her own, and a young singer who may become her soulmate. It had such a nice shot of the women at the end that really set things up for the rest of the series.

Bridesman, funded by Grindr, was hilarious, reminiscent of The Other Two. Jimmy Fowlie is the lead, with Sydnee Washington (LOVED her) as his bestie who is getting hitched. Fowlie's character's plan is to steal his friend's fiancé in order to save her from heteronormative vows, but one person stands in his way — an evil gal-pal played perfectly by Shannon Devido. Very over-the-top and fun, and I had a great chat with Onieal afterward.

The Ex Cycle follows two men who were once in a relationship and are now coming off an impulsive one-night stand. It skillfully weaves into its narrative the undercovered issue of addiction in the LGBTQ community, and has lovely, understated performances.

Your Eyes, about two women in love, accomplished most of its goals without dialogue, feeling very impressionistic and ending with a twist.

Finally, I think Ms./Manage was my fave. From a more mature perspective, it's about a queer woman (splended Skye Johnson) climbing the corporate ladder while Black as she also navigates becoming a mom with her partner. It employs direct-to-camera asides from the lead character and has a gravitas that made it easy to envision as a regular series on a streamer or even a network. 

NewFest was probably the last fest I'll be attending with Boy Culture: The Series. Next up: DESPERATELY SEEKING STREAMERS.

Sep 29 2021
Luke Evans As Bond? + RIP Gay Actor Tommy Kirk + Lewandowski Accused Of Groping A Trump Donor + MORE! — 12-PACK Comments (0)

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BELOW: Luke Evans as Bond? and more ...

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Disturbing The Peace With Madonna @ Her Exclusive MADAME X Premiere & After-Party Comments (0)

MADONNA-MADAME-X-PREMIEREIMG_7889Rain ... feel it on my fingertips ... (All images by Matthew Rettenmund, unless noted)

Days later (and a trip to Chicago behind me) — here are my thoughts on attending Madonna's Madame X premiere in NYC on Thursday, September 23:

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